Is internet dating the only way to meet a new partner nowadays? Author Barbara Hudson describes her experience...
Barbara Hudson
Would you try internet dating?
Posted on: Fri 26-Aug-16 13:01:53
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After I retired, single and lonely, I began to wonder what was the point of me. I have some good friends and a reliable pension, and I live in a lovely part of the world – but without my job, it wasn't enough. I wanted a partner.
We ladies of a certain age can't hang out in night clubs or pubs, hoping to 'pull'. And my nice friends proved unable to help me find someone. So it had to be Internet dating.
Many single older people are turning to the Internet nowadays. There are sites specifically for older daters, as well as a host of others focused on particular interests (religious faith, hiking, green issues, for example). If you are concerned about educational attainment there are sites reserved for people with a degree - there is even one for graduates of Oxford and Cambridge only (and yes, they check!).
We ladies of a certain age can't hang out in night clubs or pubs, hoping to 'pull'. And my nice friends proved unable to help me find someone. So it had to be Internet dating.
Many newspapers have their own site.
If you are sensible in your choice of dating agency, careful about where you meet and about not giving your address out too readily, you should be as safe as you would be arranging a date with a stranger you have met in any other situation.
Certainly that first meeting can be embarrassing. And you have to steel yourself to be rejected and to reject. In my experience, it has been well worth trying. I came upon only one man who was the kind everyone warns you about: he gave a false address and wanted telephone sex. As for the rest, I met a lot of very nice people - certainly all of them were pleasant and polite and our meetings were interesting - and about a dozen have kept in touch as friends. And there was one I really clicked with. Now, after about ten years, I am on my own again, and at seventy six I have decided to focus on my writing.
I would love to know about other Gransnet folk? Have you tried internet dating? Any advice to offer?
Barbara's book Timed Out is published by Driven Press and is available from Amazon now.