Anger is a human emotion, we can all experience it. Its not wrong in itself. Anger can energise us into action and be helpful or it can really undermine our day to day lives. If its the latter and we can't talk directly to the individual or organisation concerned, it can sometimes help to write down what we would want to say to the person if we could. Exactly as we would say it. Then let go of the writing in a way that is meaningful, shredder, burn it in the fire, soak it in water, bury it in the garden - whatever feels right and with the letting go of the written words sometimes the anger leaves, or at least diminishes. If anger is being destructive in our day to day life and we just can't move past it then talking with a counsellor can often help, an unbiased ear can help us to let go. I don't think most people choose to hold onto anger, often its a case of unexpressed thoughts and feelings that coalesce as anger and then get entrenched as part of us. Or that's the way I think about it. Guess there are lots of other ways. Hope something can help Tanith, you sound as if you would like to put the totally understandable anger down. Good luck to you and anyone else in your situation.