I always feel like a meanie, but with 3 kids, partners, 8 grandkids and some partners, one great grandchild, plus the extras that come along, like sisters children and step children, Once a daughter or son has a partner with children, they are on the list too,I can no longer count my 9 nephews and nieces and their offspring and grandchildren, well it all mounts up, and counting birthdays and christmas it works out expensive. we only have the state pension. So I limit myself to £10 each for birthdays, cash in card, then a present on or aound the same amount at Christmas as I think it's nice to wrap and give presents at that time. Then there are Easter eggs too. See what I mean, I am a meanie and envy my friend with just 2 children and 3 grandchildren who can afford to be more generous. But I give freely of my time, my love and my energy.