I only had girls so I am at a loss as to know how to deal with a situation that has arisen within the family.
A 12 year old boy has had problems for a long time with aggressive outbursts that he does not seem able to control. This is getting out of hand and is having a very detrimental effect on his younger siblings; and I feel that it needs dealing with before his hormones start to kick in.
When not in the grip of these outbursts he is lovely, but they are occurring more frequently and the bigger he gets the more dangerous they become.
There is no obvious problem at school, where it seems that he ticks along OK - probably slightly underperforming, but nothing serious. He is a bright and talented lad.
A lot of the aggression both verbal and physical seems to be directed at his mother.
He has no obvious signs of ADHD or Aspergers. I guess he might tick one or two boxes but nothing consistent.
I witnessed a recent episode and what came across to me very clearly is that he is just plain sad, deeply sad - it was very distressing and dreadful to behold. There is no obvious reason why he should be sad, as he has a loving family and relative material comfort, although he thinks he does not have enough "things" and that they are poor - and this is often a trigger for his anger.
The prenatal, postnatal and obstetric history are not great - pre-eclampsia followed by long obstructed labour requiring a C section; then Mum had PND. He was in nursery full time at 8 months as mother had to return to work.
I am loathe to suggest a referral to CAMHS as they are so variable in their quality, and it would be a pity for him to be saddled with a label when this might achieve no positive help.
This is all outside my personal experience, but I am being asked to help and do not know how best to. Anyone out there had boys like this? Have you any advice to offer?
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