PHM12 you are obviously not blessed with insight and empathy.
And yes, yes, yes that terrible anger and shock turns you into a different woman. I would have done anything I could to get revenge, only just short of murder and harm. Only just. As it was I had to content myself with being awkward, spinning the divorce out for five whole years until I got what I wanted.
I know that seriously irritated the Other Woman and caused trouble in Love Land. That was my revenge. Honestly, normally I'm quite nice! Don't judge VP. The similarities between her family and mine are so spookily strong that I really, really feel for her. My three children, although aged 19+ didn't speak to their father for two years and even now, ten years later, their relationship is strained at times.
I could write a book!