Hello all,
This word has been used a lot lately, and with much love, respect and compassion behind it. (Please forgive me for attaching these words, those that have used the word "brave", but I don't think I am taking a liberty in suggesting that these are the feelings that you were expressing?)
I cannot speak for the others among us that have experienced the event (the loss of an adult child) that has prompted the lovely and genuine response from other GN'ers, and I can only speak for myself and say that every post, every is so very much appreciated.
The word "brave" can have different meanings for different people. I have deliberately NOT gone to my dictionary for a definition, I have instead given it a bit of personal thought, and of course I may be wrong!
For me, "brave" means making a decision, where you perhaps put others first.
Examples? Those medics who went out to help in the areas where the Ebola virus was rife. Someone who goes into a burning house to try to rescue people trapped inside. A person who tries to intervene in a street assault. I'm sure you can think of your own examples.
Anyway, what I'm trying to say is, your good wishes are so very much valued and gratefully received, it is true that even though the event may be some years in the past, the pain and other feelings are still very much in the present.
I can of course speak only for myself, but I believe that I am not brave, but have perhaps become resilient.
Love to you all, R.xx
Last weekend, in Rutland, the first statue in Britain of the late Elizabeth II was unveiled.