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loneliness and cats

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honeypot43 Sat 02-Apr-16 09:55:23

My two cats have helped me through loss of husband in 2014. I sold the house, bought a bungalow with pretty garden and got my two cats from Blue Cross. Willow is an overweight female tabby, very pretty but nervous, she was in a cage with a little black & white cat called Jessy who is affectionate and active, I couldn't resist them. They have been a such a comfort, affection and source of amusement. They help me with all my activities, ie sitting on keyboard, chewing edge of my watercolour paper while I am trying to paint, and pulling threads on my knitting, but instead of being so lonely I have two living beings with me to share my home. I am 73 and feel so much better now and would recommend pets after bereavement to anyone.

Nannylovesshopping Sat 02-Apr-16 10:02:15

honeypot43 so glad you have your cats for company, that is a great picturesmile

Alima Sat 02-Apr-16 10:54:34

Honeypot43 we also had a black and white cat called Jessy. She was my special friend and I still miss her after 6 years. Cats can be wonderful companions and it is wonderful that your two are such good company for you. I hope Jessy helps you with your silver-surfing!

honeypot43 Tue 05-Apr-16 10:09:05

Unfortunately my cute and affectionate little cat Jessy, caught a rabbit yesterday. She was outside the conservatory door with it in her mouth. Managed to grab cat, threw her indoors and let the rabbit stay and recover. Cat furious watching it through the window all evening. Rabbit disappeared and eventually I let her go out in the garden. She stayed out all night and in the morning she was sitting on fence and poor rabbit dead on the grass. Cat now happy and purring as usual again. I suppose its all natural and if she was a farm cat it would be OK - must go and get some flea treatment now

Lillie Tue 05-Apr-16 11:30:04

What lovely cats you have honeypot43 and I bet they are great company. Don't talk about catchings! Here's our list from our two "rescued" brothers :
........ mice, rats, rabbits, squirrels, birds .... and when we lived in France ....... shrews, moles and woodpeckers. Yes, hunting is definitely a natural instinct where cats are concerned!

Alima Tue 05-Apr-16 11:33:01

One of our cats, Nigel, caught a baby rabbit once but we were lucky enough to get it off him and free it in the nearby woods.

PRINTMISS Tue 05-Apr-16 11:41:42

We once rescued a fish from one of our cats, and had a bowl just about big enough to put the fish in whilst it recovered. We intended to creep up to a neighbours garden and put it in their fish pond newly built, because they were always complaining about our cats catching their fish, and since the cat was in the front, we assumed it was from that pond. Unfortunately, we forgot all about the fish that night, but it was still swimming happily until I filled the kettle and plugged it in, when the fish flew into the air, flopped into the water with a great splash DEAD! It was just as well we did not put it in the neighbours pond, they had not yet put fish there. We have always loved cats, do not have them now, but my daughter has just had two new cats (to her), because their old cat eventually had to be put to sleep. Can't wait to meet them.

Moonlightwalks Tue 05-Apr-16 11:41:48

They sound just what you needed at the time, my cat chose me even though I am a dog person! She is lovely and often brings me a mouse then I spend up to 3 days trying to live catch it and let it go again. Love her face while she watches me but never helps re catch it even when holding the freezer at a crazy angle pleading for her to catch it! Pets love them xx

TerriBull Tue 05-Apr-16 12:01:38

I'm determined to have a cat again one day I adore them, as far as I'm concerned they are the perfect pet. Unfortunately, although my husband also professes to like them a lot, he says he's allergic to cat hair hmm although he had a cat as a family pet when his first children were growing up. In addition both our sons are also allergic as well as my granddaughter, although like me and my mother she also loves cats too. It's a conspiracy sad

Moonlightwalks Tue 05-Apr-16 12:14:41

The hair is everywhere, worse when you have one on your lashes! If there is a Cats Protection Branch near you they always need volunteers to help with money raising or sitting and socialising with the cats waiting for homes, bet you fall in love with one!

honeypot43 Tue 05-Apr-16 12:25:52

Yes I do understand, my husband wouldn't let me have cats, but he died in 2014 and I immediately went to Blue Cross and got my two. They have been such a comfort to me and its so nice to have them. I bought a bungalow last year with garden for me and cats and we love it. I do miss husband of course, but to be honest its so good to be able to do what I like when I like. However I'm not keen on my pretty little black & white cat Jessy catching rabbits, but will have to get used to it

rosesarered Tue 05-Apr-16 18:40:10

Welcome to the forum Honeypot cats are great company.We always had two cats at the same time, they seem happier that way ( most animals do.)
haven't had any for a couple of years now though, and as time goes on feel the need for them less, but am sure at some time will will get at least one.
The hunting and bringing home dead or live creatures is off putting, but natural to cats.You wouldn't think a house with cats would have a mouse ( a free range mouse) but we had them on and off for years and years because of the cats.

NotTooOld Tue 05-Apr-16 21:44:07

Honeypot, you sound like a very brave, practical lady. If I'm ever in your situation I hope I have the guts to reorganise my life as you have done. Well done, you. flowers

rubylady Wed 06-Apr-16 02:53:42

It seems like I now have two adopted cats who come round to dine. As long as they stay outside it's fine. They have a kennel out there to keep warm and dry in so not a bad life of two semi homeless cats. smile

absent Wed 06-Apr-16 06:31:59

I have had cats – as if one owns cats – all my adult life and always, somehow, also encountered a bunch of strays that I fed regularly and for whom I provided as much comfort and shelter as possible. My three old cats who travelled halfway across the world with me to a new home are no more, the last one dying at 19-years-old a few weeks ago.

However, the abandoned kitten, who looked more like a hamster than a cat and required four-hourly feeds day and night, is flourishing and I have no doubt he will grow into his massively bushy tail.

The feral mums have been neutered and I have taken full responsibility for them. I have, of course, been feeding them pretty much since I started living here.

I love having little animals around. I had said that I would have no more cats after the last of my English brood died – but then little Squeaker came along. I should love to have a dog again, but am concerned that I shall grow too old and feeble to provide enough exercise.

By the way, apparently, stroking a cat – which those of us with cats love to do as often as possible – reduces blood pressure. Quid pro quo. The other great thing, if you live on your own, is that you can chat away to your cat who will usually look as if it is paying attention and weighing your words. Indeed, you can still chat away to your cat if it's sound asleep on your shoulder – and why not?

Judthepud2 Thu 07-Apr-16 00:25:36

I have just taken the last of my long line of cats to the vet. He is 14, losing weight fast and vomiting frequently. Vet told me he has bowel cancer. I brought him home for the family to say goodbye and will take him on his last journey on Friday. I think a few tears will be shed. He was a lovely little cat sad

At least I will still have my (now nearly grown up) pup.

Willow500 Thu 07-Apr-16 16:37:37

Oh Jud I'm so sorry - I've been there so many times and it's heartbreaking sad

Honey your fur babies are beautiful and in answer to your original heading yes my own cats have helped me through a lot of sad times although equally causing a lot of sadness themselves as they've departed over the years. I too have had baby rabbits, dead and alive, birds, a hare (alive) mice - again dead and alive, frogs and once a tiny lizard though i've no idea where that came from. It is part of nature although I'm not quite sure the string of sausages that one particular naughty boy came racing over the garden with count as wildlife grin

Judthepud2 Thu 07-Apr-16 20:00:29

D day for our Cali is tomorrow morning. Not looking forward to it. I just feel so guilty about the decision but he was so sick this morning. He is sitting on DH's laptop (for comfort from the heat) at present looking at me. I have lost several cats in the past. Each one a heartbreak. You never get used to it, do you?

Judthepud2 Fri 08-Apr-16 15:28:11

Cali passed away peacefully this morning while I stroked his head. I wept buckets. He was elderly and very poorly, but I'll miss him! sad

Nelliemoser Fri 08-Apr-16 16:08:33

Jud I am sorry to hear that. flowers

Judthepud2 Fri 08-Apr-16 23:55:27

Thanks Nellie that is kind of you. At least we have our lovely young spaniel to cheer us up.

SewAddict Sat 09-Apr-16 17:45:57

I've always had cats and our current old boy is 18. They are great company, though my DH is currently cursing ours as he knocked his tray of curry on the floor as DH sat down! Hugs to those losing a dear companion.

Charleygirl Sat 09-Apr-16 18:30:05

I do try not to weep at the vet's but afterwards is a different story. Cali looks a handsome young man- it is so sad when they go for their last visit. You are lucky that you have your dog, I have always returned to an empty house.

Judthepud2 Sat 09-Apr-16 20:59:10

Look what arrived from our vet today! How lovely was that?

annsixty Sat 09-Apr-16 21:29:58

That was so thoughtful of them. All I got was a large bill.?