Hi there. I am interested in your opinions around long term friendships because let's face it most of us on this site are old enough to have lots of experienced of them. I have two friends whom i'v known for 35 years. We have holidayed together. Bought our children up together, shared many ups and downs. Divorces, separations, illicit affairs(not me I haven't had any) trouble with our children, sickness and recovery. We probably know more of each other's most intimate secrets than our partners and families. We have comforted and guided each other. Responded to each other's crises quickly and with compassion. Our relationship with each is so close that each of our extended families have relationships with them and are included in weddings, funerals etc. We are very very different. I am the steady one. One is calm. The other is quite frankly mad as a hatter. All sounds lovely and seeing written down in this way I realise that i'v been lucky. But i'v got this far so I will continue. Over the last year i'v felt that some cracks are starting to appearing. Our contact has become less frequent. I have no idea what's happening in their lives or how their Christmas went. One of the girls is in a new relationship. Her life is now very different from before. She moves in circles that myself and my other friend have no interest in or experience of. My other friend is having an affair that her partner is pretending he doesn't know about. all Her family really disprove as do my myself and friend but we would never disown her but it has impacted on our relationship. She tells her family and us lies. She's borrows money to finance the affair. She told us all that she was sick to gain sympathy and cover her tracks. She has told me things and not our other friend putting me in an awkward position. At one time it forced me into having to break her confidence and tell our other friend. I did it for her own good. I told her I'd done it and why. To be fair our friend gave more insightful advise than I could. I have had some distressing family issues over the last year that have left me feeling bereft. My two friends are aware of these events but I have had no support from either. They haven't contacted me at all. To be fair I haven't contacted them for about 6-7 weeks. Mainly because one of the features of my situation has been a bit of depression that's caused me to sort of lock myself away. But only for the last 6 weeks. Before that I contacted them regularly.Now I'm not sure if it's because we simply do not want to discuss the affair between us or if it's a fact of life that some friendships just run their course and have a natural end and this is ours. I am undecided on how to precede. I could telephone them but I'm feeling very disappointed and wouldn't we be just be simply be papering over the cracks. I suppose it could be that the friendship remains but has changed. What do you think?
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