Some Gransnetters may just remember that I was really concerned a couple of years ago about my DGD's behaviour. She's now nearly 15, but from when she was really tiny, she's shown anger towards her mother (my DD). Her father was very reluctant to set boundaries and didn't give any emotional support to DD when she tried to set these boundaries herself. Eventually, after 22 years of being together - married for 12 - DD and SiL have separated. DGD is furious with her mother for leaving her and her father, although over the years, she has said to her father that he should divorce DD. This behaviour has been condoned by SiL in parts, and I think he and his family decided that DGD's behaviour is just 'her', and they've not really discouraged it, to any great extent or supported DD in any way when she tried to lay down boundaries. In effect, DD's opinion didn't seem to count for anything at all.
DD wanted DGD to go with her when she left, but wasn't surprised when this was refused.
Now, 6 months on, DGD will not speak to her mother at all, either by text, or if DD calls at the house with 'personal' items for her. DGD also won't have anything to do with me. We'd always had a good relationship - never any challenging behaviour exhibited when we were together and we did actually have fun.
It's her birthday just before Christmas, and I don't know what to do. I did see her once a few weeks ago when she was walking home from school. I stopped the car and went over to her, but she made as if to run away - which made me feel awful. I did try to talk to her, but got very little response. I want to give her presents for her birthday and Christmas - but how on earth do I do this when she won't have anything to do with me?
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Good Morning Thursday 18th April 2024