I don't think there's any real solution to this but I just wanted to tell someone else and also try to get it clearer in my own mind.
My daughter is 30 years old and is an M.E. sufferer, which causes various symptoms and limits her life quite a bit.. She rented a flat on her own for a few years but has been back living with me for the last 3 years. We have had rocky times in the past but get on okay now.
She has had a few boyfriends over the years, but nothing lasting and I know she has felt quite lonely.
In the last few weeks DD has become friendly with a guy of similar age, whom she met at an art class. He is now her boyfriend and she stayed at his place (a flat shared with friends) for a couple of days then he stayed with us last weekend.
That was the first of me getting to know the BF and he seemed a very nice guy. Then, on Monday, he told me that he is awaiting a court case for having unsuitable images on his computer. He said they must have been downloaded by a friend or acquaintance in the house he lived in at the time (not the flat he now has) as he often let other people use his laptop.
He was clearly very nervous about telling me this and was worried about how I might react.
I was completely gobsmacked and said something to the effect that I certainly wasn't going to shout at him or anything as DD is free to be with whoever she wants without my say-so.
My DD joined the conversation and she had known about this for a couple of days. She was a bit upset that what had appeared to be a lovely boyfriend and a happy relationship, unlike some of them, had turned out to have this terrible problem.
We then had some general conversation before I went to bed, leaving them together.
On Tuesday I left early for work and when I got back, they had gone. DD has been staying with BF since then. I have had a text from her and also happened to meet them out shopping. She seemed happy, as far as I could tell.
I am sure that DD has not cut herself off from me but is just enjoying her new relationship. I would be happy about that if it was not for the news the BF gave me.
Obviously if he is telling the truth, he deserves all the support he can get. Also obviously I, and DD, have no way of knowing what the truth is.
As I said, I don't think there's any solution to this, but thanks for reading this long post.
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