Since my DH passed away two years ago my 3 sons (late thirties and early forties) have had a very strange attitude towards me. Before their dad died we were a happy family, lots of jokes, meals out et., but now they look at me with a mixture of reserved kindness, distance and a sort of anxiety. They don't feel comfortable in my new home (had to move which they all agreed with) and are very tense when they're here. I wonder if there is a Gran who is further down the bereavement line than I am who has established a new relationship with their grown up children. I miss the way we were, relaxed, jolly etc., and feel helpless as to how to achieve this.
Things you find stressful that other people don't notice.