I know many grans are also caring for relatives, usually elderly parents, from a distance and wondered if you have any tips to share.
Most of you know that I'm 'managing' my mother's health care from 250 miles away, but I find I'm struggling to know when my presence is really needed and when I really need to contact doctors and hospitals etc. My mother is 'selective' let's say, in sharing bits of information between myself, my sister in the USA who calls my mother every day, and my sister who lives near to and frequently visits mum (but is often out of the country). My sisters are very good at relaying things that mum has told them that is often withheld from me, but it means that I get a lot of information second-hand. Mum does sometimes play games and say different things to each of us and it's then hard to know what needs to be acted upon.
My sisters are brilliant and I am especially grateful to the one who is nearby and bears the brunt of mother's difficult behaviour, but she is not able to be assertive with her and so relies on me to deal with the contentious stuff.
How have others coped with this kind of thing?
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