Why am I so upset?

I have been divorced from my husband of 30 years for the past two years, in which time we have stayed friends, socialised with family and friends and met up once a week for a chat and a meal

A couple of months ago , me and my big mouth upset him and he hasn't spoken or been in contact with me since.

When we separated he stayed in the large family home, on his own for 18 months then decided to put it on the market
It had lots of viewings but never any offers, so he took advice from the agents to 'freshen up a couple of rooms and de clutter'. He then decided to go further and to knock out the kitchen and another room into a large open planned family socialising area, refitting a new kitchen and to finish off by repainting the exterior of the house and fit shutters

The upshot was that when he told me of the things he had planned, I couldn't keep my opinions to myself, and let it wash over me, because these were the very things I had wanted to do to the house over the years but he would not spend the money on it saying it was a waste as we would eventually sell it and to let new owners do their own makeover

I was so upset and angry that he had taken all my ideas that he had said no to for all these years and was going ahead with it all
Planning, builders and choices all in place

I just lost it, i was angry to think that all he ever said was no to everything, it felt as though my input and hard work in that house had been wasted, I gave up work to look after 3 children, now all adults with good lives of their own, I supported him throughout the running of a business and ran the house on my own as he was too busy to be 'concerned with the running of a large house, whilst he had a business to run'.
He was never really interested in any minor works that needed doing and left me to get on with it

Then to be told that he's now having all this work done and has no plans to sell now as he wants to enjoy the house is rather galling.

I don't know why it should be, I moved out 2 years ago - but have I moved on?

Perhaps I'm being childish, all I know is that it feels like he's rubbing my nose in it.