Lifestillrelevant
My happy family life didnt just happen, we all work at it. Nobody shilly shallies round anybody, and nobody gets involved with anothers clash of opinion either. If i dont see eye to eye with my daughter, i dont go moaning to my son, and vice versa. My son doesnt get involved he is neither ally or foe, or even referee. None of us look for support from the party that is neutral, and the party that is neutral doesnt interfere or get involved in any way. Any issue raised is dealt with by those concerned, in a manner that doesnt affect the harmony of others, and in a quiet and reasonable manner
We have little disharmony amongst ourselves, but of course nobody can agree with everybody all the time on every issue, but on the occassions when a differing of opinion may arise, we all share similar principles on how these moments are dealt with. Being a family, my children were brought up to exercise tolerance because that was how i was brought up, i was also brought up to respect others points of view, even if i didnt agree with them myself,. These qualities tend to be passed down, or picked up by other members of the famiily or anyone who happens to share the same environment. By respecting anothers point of view doesnt mean one has to agree with it, or stay silent. Everyone is entitled to an opinion, but one has to learn also that not everyone will appreciate it, and nobody should expect others to adopt their opinion simply because its theirs, and they think they know best.
People who have grown up amongst adults that shout all the time, tend to grow up shouting themselves, those who see violence used as a way of getting a point over,, will tend to use that method themselves. Simplyb because they think thats the way its done. If you are not shown alternatives you wont know there are any,
My family simply enjoys peace and harmony, because those are the examples we have all grown up with. We often have evenings of debate where differing opinions will be raised on various subjects, but at the end of the debate we can all put our differences aside and still be friends.