I've tried all those suggestions, if I have an answer, he has an anti-answer. I'm only asked to help out as a last resort or for mundane things like waiting in for parcels etc. I've done that on many occassions.
My DiL is a nice woman and comes from a very well off family. They've seen more of my granddaughter than I have even though they live in Finland. I think my son is embarassed and/or ashamed of me because I'm not up to their standards. There's nothing I can do about that and I don't see why I should change (even if I could) just to keep up with the 'Jones's' as it were.
It's embarrassing when people ask how she is because I can't answer them.
I've got another 'keen'... Ouch!