My husband is ex military, and had no trouble getting our two to behave for us. He didn't use fear or smacking: he had simply perfected that 'look' that brings children up short when they are getting too noisy or naughty in the wrong environment. My own method was to quietly lay down the law, face to face, at the child's level.
However, if I knew they were over boisterous and noisy and wild I would simply not have taken them anywhere they could have annoyed the people around us. I don't think it is fair to do that to strangers.
Is it me or am I getting mixed messages
Is anyone interested in the terror attack in Moscow?