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Am I being unreasonable to strangle my wife !!!!

(34 Posts)
tjspompa Tue 31-May-11 20:16:05

Am I being unreasonable to strangle my wife !!!! We have visited 4 towns, travelled 200 ish miles, just to get a wedding outfit. I am knackered. ( and poorer)

grannyactivist Tue 31-May-11 20:22:00

Absolutely unreasonable! End of!

baggythecrust! Tue 31-May-11 20:22:03

I wouldn't do that for a wedding outfit but just make an ordinary fuss, there's a dear, and leave your poor wife alone.

glassortwo Tue 31-May-11 20:23:55

YABU tjspompa important things wedding outfits. as granny said End of. wink

nanapippa Tue 31-May-11 20:24:00

Yup, you are....... wink

tjspompa Tue 31-May-11 20:28:03

LOL, thanks for your support nanpippa.

tjspompa Tue 31-May-11 20:30:31

Found this lovely lady in Debenhams, she just said give me your credit card, sit down in that comfy chair, and I will find her an outfit --- result.

tjspompa Tue 31-May-11 20:36:48

Why is it that men's suits are on the racks in matching colours, whereas ladies shops put all the skirts together and the tops elsewhere, nightmare trying to find co-ordinating outfits.

heleena Tue 31-May-11 20:49:12

Why is it that in shops mensware is usually just inside the door and childrens and ladies are the furthest point away from the door or upstairsconfused??

tjspompa Tue 31-May-11 20:55:07

Because if men can't find what they want in 2 minutes, they will give up !!

harrigran Tue 31-May-11 22:04:01

Only 200ish miles tjspompa ! My husband would travel to the ends of the earth to keep me happy and ensure that I get the outfit I want/need. When I was looking for an outfit for the palace he was so supportive grin

Doris Wed 01-Jun-11 10:10:18

Personally? - If it was me, I wouldn't even take my husband in the first place grin

HildaW Wed 01-Jun-11 10:26:48

Doris..with you on that one.....they have their uses..driving cars and carrying stuff buying lunch (I am being a tad ironic here) but we have this.....'see you outside so and sos in a given amount of time' arrangement which works well. Most decent shops will put something by for you to pop back if you need a second opinion.

I used to work in a very smart shop and it could be an absolute nightmare when partners played an active part in the choice - trying to be diplomatic to both! Sometimes a husband could be really quite insensititive and I've even seen the odd downright nasty! (We had a gentlemen's dept and yes...I have seen the odd husband look quite crestfallen when a wife rejected out of hand their choice).

baggythecrust! Wed 01-Jun-11 11:43:55

Wouldn't DREAM of taking a husband EVER! Nor would I dream of asking his opinion. He either has to like it or lump it. He once made a face at something I was wearing and I said, coolly: "I don't like your clothes either." End of. I guess I'm lucky to be confident in my own taste. It really does make life easier. You don't have to be fashionable either; just wear what you like. smile

Magsie Wed 01-Jun-11 12:03:59

No, my husband's taste tends to bright florals so I know we wouldn't agree. I'd probably take a female friend or go on my own.

harrigran Wed 01-Jun-11 12:37:20

I would not take another female shopping with me, they have a vested interest in ensuring you are not as smart as them. My husband actually has very good taste and never looks at the price tags.

supernana Wed 01-Jun-11 14:02:58

My husband is a marvel methinks. If I ever need a special outfit [granted not that often] he is happy for us to travel from Kyntire to Glasgow [ 7 hour round journey by road ] - and then we'll go to as many outlets as I need to. He takes his crosswords, finds a seat and awaits my apperance from the dressing room. He doesn't need to voice an opinion...his eyes and smile say it all! smile

HildaW Wed 01-Jun-11 15:37:53

Aw Supernana...........he is definately a keeper!

JessM Wed 01-Jun-11 16:25:20

harrigran! were you serious? If i go shopping with a female friend or relative I would not be expecting hidden appearance-competition agendas or having them. Aren't we too old, wise and supportive for that kind of thing?

BecauseImWorthIt Wed 01-Jun-11 18:22:12

Why on earth are you going with her?!

tjspompa Wed 01-Jun-11 19:19:43

LOL, I only started this thread as a joke, seems to have uncovered some hidden feelings.

I don't mind taking Mrs TJ shopping (she doesn't drive, and as we live in the sticks, that's essential) and I'm sure she really values my opinion on fashion ROFL !!!!

Doris Wed 01-Jun-11 19:47:28

baggythecrust -
I love you!!!! My sentiments exactly AND I've said the same thing.grin

milkflake Wed 01-Jun-11 20:10:43

Why did you go????
No way would I take my OH shopping for an outfit.
buy her driving lessons!!

tjspompa Wed 01-Jun-11 21:48:50

Mrs. TJ does genuinely value my opinion, I guess she knows I will be honest, I also ask her opinion when I buy new clothes (circa 1980 I think !). Apart from which and enjoy doing most things together.
I'd love her to drive, she used to, but after an incident, she is now too nervous to drive any-more despite professional help.

baggythecrust! Wed 01-Jun-11 22:05:50

I can empathise with Mrs TJ. I do still drive but not if it's at all icy or snowy, which it was for several weeks last winter, because the winter before one wheel hit ice and the car somersaulted over a sea wall. No-one hurt, thankfully, but I'm still nervous if there's white stuff about.