Quite right, jess, as usual! I have been lucky on all those counts. So far.
Even with the DH whose GC it isn't.
Except my GC isn't close geographically but 'full life', etc., plus total confidence in his parents' sense (and sensibilities), makes a huge difference, I suspect. Am glad that GS is moving two hundred miles nearer, at least for a short time. Will get in some extra visits.
In short, I've been lucky, according to my lights.
GA has had a tough time and I'm sure that makes a big difference, if only to make one more emotionally fragile while recovery is taking place. Hugs, GA.
Are you back from Eire, jess?