Jangran, my mother also fell out with her sister so when my aunt helped me to make the dress I got married in back in the seventies, mother complained that she was 'surprised' I hadn't asked her instead. Actually, I didn't ask my aunt to help, I just asked if I could use her sewing machine while I was visiting her. She showed an interest and was able to advise me about some little details because she was a sewer herself. My mother, although she could and did sew a bit, always hated it. Nuff said! Mothers like that have a way of twisting things.
I won't be going the extra mile and I've already told all my four siblings not to expect it. As it happens, three of them are in a better position, financially, geographically or with regard to other family commitments, to help out more easily if and when it is needed. She likes them better too, and has different expectatiions of them (I'm the oldest girl), but we all find her difficult.
I've told my daughters to tell me if I ever get like her.
Good Morning Saturday 3rd June 2023