Hi this is my first post... and here goes.
I am a new Grandma...by proxy to my Step-daughters son. It makes social event difficult.
Like today, my Grandson's 1st birthday...I just wanted to see him enjoying life.
Instead the poor little boy was all dressed up like one of those tiny pet dogs in dress. He looked uncomfortable, couldn't move, stressed and he was tired. He wore a waistcoat, wedding shirt and tie...with suit trouser all at least a size to big.
My step-daughter wanted to host a naming ceremony...she invited everyone to show off (is the impression I got). Her partner bless him, invited his family who arrived in their hundreds with their bad mannered, foul mouthed offspring.
On arrival and on time, unlike most...despite receiving an invite with instructions on time, dress code, type of event.
My step-daughter looked like she was going to a garden oprea party or something totally inappropriate gold and shimmery (It's January!!). Others were in jeans and t-shirt as instructed NOT to be. While her partners family wore my daughters clothes and shoes...again summery, bare legs and not much covering the hefty size 18.
We were instructed on where to deposit our gifts 'IN THE PILE'. I took time to choose this carefully for my Grandson.
Friends/Family of my step-daughter and her partners made promises to my grandson they truly didn't intend to keep or understand. These people were named as guardian angels to my Grandson.
I wouldn't trust them, as far as I could throw them. one couple they'd know for no more than 3 months?
At that point I thought what was the point!
Why make up events under the pretense of achieving the equivalent of a christening or baptism without the religious aspect?
I have nothing against the whole religion thing...I do not force my beliefs on anyone, but I do expect manners.
A welcome, please and thank you...not great your here, what did you bring us.
I didn't get to hold and say hi to my grandson, I had to watch him being tossed from his Mum's arms to his Dad as they scurried away to show him off to people who clearly care or want to be there. All the while, my Grandson... pulled and tugged at his attire..charming as it was... he cried and made all the noise he could to get his parents and anyone near him notice...HE WAS UNCOMFORTABLE.
My children's generation have no manners, no etiquette, nor understanding the reason for the formality surrounding family events..from the minor Sunday lunch to the Wedding or Funeral.... It's all one big party.. no longer about respect for the person/s we are celebrating.
Yet, I remember teaching them all these things, setting a table, how to use a knife and fork...what to where to a funeral, what to do at a wedding, how to accept and write thank you letters for gifts received.
What happened....?