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AIBU to want to scream at the use of certain words?

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Anne58 Thu 15-Sep-11 20:30:26

Ok, so perhaps this should be in pedants corner, but am I alone in hating the word "hubby"?

Would you want to be referred to as "wifey"

What is wrong with referring (on here) to your significant other/other half/husband/partner (delete where not applicable) as either DH, Mr Phoenix (example, obviously if you were granny whatever, you wouldn't use the term Mr Phoenix!)

I have always had a real problem with "hubby". When I married my first husband (3 weeks after my 18th birthday, yes I know, way too young and I wasn't even pregnant!) a older lady in the office used to ask after my "hubby". It took a lot of tooth gritting to be able to answer politely!

greenmossgiel Thu 15-Sep-11 21:04:07

Where I live women ARE often called 'wifie'! When I was little, my mother also used to dislike the term 'hubby' as well, but I think that was mainly because she despised our neighbour who called her husband this! The neighbour was very busty, wore revealing tops, and was 'glamorous' - she had a 'hubby' called Wilf, who always looked exhausted. My mother thought the neighbour was a 'disgrace' and 'no better than she should be'. grin

harrigran Thu 15-Sep-11 22:23:46

I hate the word hubby too, sounds too much like a fat little car. Where we live it is fairly common for men to refer to their wives as wor lass. One wonders who they have to share with.

glammanana Thu 15-Sep-11 22:47:27

I love being in Scotland and being called "Hen" or Newcastle and being called "Man Women",but I never refer to DH as hubby i alway's refer to him as "Our John" or "My John", and if I'm cross with him it's unprintable !

Baggy Fri 16-Sep-11 06:53:51

I like the word 'hubby'. I think it sounds friendly, like an endearment. I don't use it myself, as it happens, but it certainly doesn't upset me to hear or see it. Like most words, if it's used in a friendly way, I'll assume it's friendly and not anything negative, whereas if it's used in a negative or patronising way, I'll assume it's the speaker who has a problem. It's not a problem for me. At some point, when I remember, I'll ask MOG what he thinks.

susiecb Fri 16-Sep-11 08:53:36

I hate 'hubby' so Abigails Party all seventies mimsiness.

My hate words are management/politician speak - 'going forward' David CamMORON several times a week
- retail environment instead of shopping centre (Westfield Stratford this week)
I could go on and on but I wont.

Baggy Fri 16-Sep-11 09:25:59

Never heard of Abigail's party and seventies mimsiness so maybe that's why the usage of the word is more important to me that the word. Looks as if there's something to be said for not letting fashions bother me. Saves a lot of angst by the looks of things. wink

susiecb Fri 16-Sep-11 09:54:38

Never heard of Abigails Party a tour de force by the glorious Alison Steadman - I do urge you to get it out of the library or something it is hilarious all about seventies style wannabe middle classes. The main character finds Demis Roussos and floor length crimplelene the height of fashionable living - its a

Baggy Fri 16-Sep-11 10:20:35

smile On your recommendation, susie, I'll look out for it. But if it's such a scream, why the problem with one of its 'hangovers' – the hubby word? Really, darling, aren't you being a little OTT? wink

greenmossgiel Fri 16-Sep-11 10:47:28

Baggy Abigail's Party is very 'tongue in cheek'. We've all known people like Abigail but not wanted to be her friend. I know you don't use a television, so you wouldn't be able to see on DVD how Alison Steadman plays the part (brilliantly - I really like her!), but perhaps you could see it some other way. I'm sure it would appeal to you wink

absentgrana Fri 16-Sep-11 11:07:18

Abigail's Party is the play that made Mike Leigh, the author (although he works in a fairly unconventional way as an author), a household name.

Baggy Fri 16-Sep-11 11:22:13

If I can get it on DVD, greenmoss, we can watch it on the iMac. I'll certainly try and get hold of it or borrow it.

greenmossgiel Fri 16-Sep-11 11:36:24

absent - I couldn't bring the author's name to mind! Abigail's Party needs to be watched and not read, most definitely!
Baggy - Do, if you can!

harrigran Fri 16-Sep-11 17:32:47

Abigail's party, a brilliant portrayal of 70s life. I think Alison Steadman was great. Janine Duvitski (from Benidorm) also played a good part.

dorsetpennt Fri 16-Sep-11 23:02:49

Try LoveFilm I've been able to watch several old films with them ie: The Greengage Summer.

whatamess Fri 16-Sep-11 23:28:20

Aargh - hubby. The ultimate in twee. I can only ever envisage it used by women who have lacy covers on their loo rolls and see Violet Elizabeth Bott as a role model for women. Sorry. blush

susiecb Sat 17-Sep-11 10:21:45

Have just given Hubby a back rub the poor darling!!!smile

Nanban Mon 19-Sep-11 13:30:58

Gay, that used to be such a lovely word and now we can't just use it! And when we have such a rich language why do so many young people not use it but replace every other word with like, or cool, or in fact both!

harrigran Mon 19-Sep-11 19:42:21

My builder has just told me that he knows a good tiler, his words were "he's mint" What on earth does that mean ? He makes money ? or he's made of peppermint ?

em Mon 19-Sep-11 19:45:22

Of course we can still use 'gay' - just in a different context. Language evolves!

Faye Mon 19-Sep-11 21:48:19

I cringe when I hear the word 'mistress.' I sometimes think language doesn't evolve unless we stop stupid terms that put women down!!!

crimson Mon 19-Sep-11 22:12:36

On the subject of Abigail's Party does anyone remember Nuts in May?

em Mon 19-Sep-11 22:15:27

The word 'mistress' has been around for a very long time - it's just that its degree of respectability has changed from time to time.

Grannylin Mon 19-Sep-11 22:28:14

Yes...Alison Steadman as Candice- Marie!