Help!
My GC from away have just gone and I feel very sad - I am frankly relieved, and that is not how I want to feel. It breaks my heart.
On the few occasions in the past that I have had them on my own, they have been fine - no means no and if they fight over anything I just take it away and tell them they can have it back when they have worked out a way to share. I did get quite firm this w/e with oldest boy and confiscated what he was playing with for very good reason. He fought me tooth and nail. Answered back, refused to give up the item, shouted..... I could not believe it.
The way the two older ones speak to their mother/my D is appalling! They answer back, tell her she is stupid - you would not believe it. And a simple request to put shoes and socks on results in eldest lad just walking away and ignoring Mum - then getting into a strop that has to be seen to be believed - nothing comes easy - no moment of the day is without this nonsense - this boy will be 9 in January!
The really sad thing is that the smallest GS who lives nearby has picked all this up and we have had a right royal battle with him this evening. He will be 3 next week and has never been any trouble - in fact a joy to be with. But he was bound to act out sometime as he has had a difficult year with his Mum ill for months and a new baby around. It is just unfortunate that this has coincided with this appalling role model to copy this weekend.
So....what do I do? Do I tell my daughter that the situation is out of control and that she is getting it wrong, or do I bite my tongue, which is what I have always done, as I do not believe in interfering? Because she is undoubtedly getting it wrong - she relates to the oldest boy as an equal - her chastisements are almost in the form of "dares" - some of her "firm" behaviour is almost jokey. There is no sense of an adult relating to a child. I do not know what to do.