Are we elderly or middleaged.

Glammanana my grandma had the same hair and outfit, the other on had those black boots that buttoned up and long black skirts, 'helemt' hair and steel rimmed glasses. I was terrified of her, yet she must have been quite young when I was if that makes sense. Per Una rules ok!

My husband and I were talking yesterday about how we worried about our elderly parents when they retired and wondered when our children would do the same for us. Our parents were ancient at our age! I'm still waiting for the curly perm and the rocking chair to arrive to make me a real granny!

nanarosie my grandmother alway's looked old she never changed in her appearance throughtout her life,she wore a wrap around apron all the time and a straight shift type dress on Sunday's,and had a curly perm every six month's throughout her lifetime,me I have a long blonde ponytail wear levi jeans most days and my black boots even in the summer and yes when I have to go somewhere special I love love very high heels.

60 and a half and getting used to it. Still fit and flexible. Difference is you don't take if for granted any more. Becoming an expert in how to use makeup to avoid that faded look though (eyebrow pencil, blusher are essentials)
I think 40 year olds barely consider themselves middle aged these days.
Young adulthood merges into middle age somewhere in the 40s... 50-65 is early middle age. Elderly starts when you start to get frail I think. I can think of one person in his mid 70s who still goes skiing but someone only a couple of years older who has so many things wrong with her, its amazing she keeps going. So much depends on health.
The way life expectancy is rising by several years every decade, elderly is shifting to 80s and 90s and many people will still consider themselves middle aged well into their 70s.

At 63 and still wearing high heels am def not old or even middle aged, am just me as I always have been. Shame about the face!!. Odd how looking back my grandparents aways seemed old even when I was very young.

I'm 53, my remaining son is 33. I work full time in a job that can be quite demanding, have to do presentations to potential clients in an effort to win the business etc.

I do notice however that sometimes when I meet the potential clients face to face, they look somewhat suprised! (I think I sound younger on the phone,and email is a very kind medium!)

I am only 22 years older than my DD and thankfully she treats me as such and not as an old lady.
Last weekend I was babysitting GDs and the eldest said " don't worry Grandma, the adults will be back tomorrow " and I am what ?
My DS's face was a picture when I told him. He told me that he tells the GC not to play up for the other GPs because they have mobility problems.

I can still remember how old I thought everybody over 40 was. We are old for the younger generation and if elderly is the word they think fits us then we can't do anything about it.
I often feel younger at heart than most young people, as I am more intelligent and educated than a lot that I have to deal with in shops etc. I once reported the young man at Telecom because of this attitude.

Sometimes another point of view can be helpful. Once when collecting GD from her friend's house, my Navi couldn't cope because the streets were were all dug up and I couldn't get through to the house. I parked, phoned and walked and met my GD coming towards me. The friend's young mother was amazed that I drove such long distances - alone, as I live 150 miles away, and that I used a SAT Navi and could programme it, together with a modern mobile.

I told my daughter, who being used to me had never questioned it but said her friend's mother was not 'into technology' like I was and I think she was pleased I had shown myself to be so with it, so modern.
But to DD I am still 33 years older than she is and she will never see me as just middleaged.

Well that's it !Now I know. I'm definitely elderly having had my 80th birthday this year.
I worked part-time until 75.still drive,live alone and am still learning new skills and enjoying new experiences.
In our local Sustainability gp no-one treats me like an old person .I'm just one of the team.
Sometimes wish my family would have a bit more care and concern.they still think I can cope as I did at 50.
One thing that makes me feel old is that because of a tremor in my rt hand I can't pass a cup of tea-have to ask someone else to do it.Also have to use a stick because of a fall/arthritic knee.

Growing Old disgracefully

I'm 58 next month, I would say I'm in my prime, mentally I feel about 30. Although I do confess to stiffness and creaking now and then.

My DH aunt is 89 and is physically fitter than me. And has just as much mental agility

Age is just a number

I'm still young - in all the ways that matter!
I'm young at heart, and I'm fit, flexible, and active without any stiffness in my joints, or a single ache or creak! (Put that down to a lifetime of yoga)
Chronological age is irrelevant. I have met 'old' 40-somethings, and 'young' 80-somethings.
I hate the term "middle-aged" as it conjures up images of my parent's generation, who seemed to be "middle-aged" for decades!
Having just turned 60, I have been revisiting the whole issue, and am determined to erase my chronological age from my mind ... because it matters not one jot
Learnergrandma love your approach too

I was 62 yesterday and am simply surprised that my DC are all getting so much older when I am still just me

My daughter who, as she lives abroad doesn't see me very often, always maintains that I look exactly like I did the last time she saw me. I am happy to say that she expects me to behave as I always have – over the 29 years of her lifetime. She does, however, seize my hand at the side of busy roads as she's never trusted me to concentrate on something so mundane as traffic for long enough to get safely to other side. She wouldn't dare treat me as a doddering old fool and nor would my son-in-law.

Immortalised in wrinkled stockings, eh?

Long live Norah Battie x

At 66 I regard myself as simply mature. If anyone were to call me elderly they would suffer!!! 'Middle aged' is acceptable I suppose.

My role models are the old reprobates in Last of the Summer Wine.

I agree with that, gettingonabit! The other day, I grabbed at the side of my chest just as I was walking over to the cooker. My son gasped, "Mum, are you alright?" He thought I was having a heart attack, I think....but it was actually a little skin-tag that had caught on my bra! (I didn't tell him it was a skin-tag, as they are thought to be quite 'elderly' and not-very-nice things - I just said it was an itch!!)

Soory - to answer your question I would consider anyone in their 80's to be elderly; 60 - 80 middleaged; and younger than that youthful!

I'd be annoyed too. You are old as you feel, surely? I think it is your son and his wife who have a problem - they sound a bit controlling to me - could your energy and youthfulness could be challenging to them, I wonder? My mother always treated me like this - like an invalid - throughout my life. I think now that my energy and independence was a threat to her. Could your son and his wife feel the same? Perhaps you are making them feel a bit inadequate by comparison!!