Christmas is done and dusted now but there is still something irking me. This year my son, who lives in Texas with his American wife and two children (I live in the UK), suggested that the adults not exchange presents but that we just focus on the children, aged 6 and nearly 5. Fine by me, except that I spent the usual, not insignificant, sum on the children and in return received nowt but a late Christmas card signed by all of them.
I have consistently sent presents and cards over there and yet, despite the children being way ahead of the curve in terms of ability and intelligence, have yet to get a card either made or signed by either of them. When my son was growing up I made a point of getting presents for him to give to his grandmother and also writing or making a card for her. I felt that if she was giving a gift to each of us then she should get something from each of us.
Am I wrong to feel aggrieved at the fact that for years I have spent oodles of money giving 4 gifts to an extemely well off family who have only ever sent one (sometimes paltry) gift in return? It is not the money which is at issue here, but the fact that no effort is being made, and no example of thoughtfulness being demonstrated to the children.
Alphabetical girls and boys names January 2024