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...if I feel like screaming !!!!

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Tosh Fri 27-Jan-12 12:40:13

Health professional No: 9 visited yesterday and this afternoon No's: 10 & 11 at 2pm and No: 12 at 3.15pm......all in 2 weeks !!!!!
I'm getting sick of being 'on top' of the housework and getting DH showered for people coming ...and they are usually in Living Room, DH's bedroom and bathroom. It is good to be getting help ...but it's all a bit overwhelming !!! Am I being unreasonable if I sometimes feel like screaming 'Leave us alone !!!'' ?
I am rather agoraphobic , we both live VERY quiet lives and this is causing us both a lot of anxiety...even though I know everyone means well. confused

glassortwo Fri 27-Jan-12 12:51:13

tosh YNBU, you have every right to feel under pressure, hopefully it will quieten down once they have all thrown in their pennyworth.
Hope you managed to enjoy your birthday in the middle of all the bedlam, did you see the thread with all you birthday wishes? thanks

glassortwo Fri 27-Jan-12 12:54:08

Just in case you had missed it.

Butternut Fri 27-Jan-12 13:00:32

Hang in there tosh! It must be a very anxious time, and you are certainly not being unreasonable. Before you know it you'll be able to have your home back and hopefully your feet up and a good cuppa. For what it's worth, I think you're doing a GRAND job. smile

em Fri 27-Jan-12 13:19:47

Yes Tosh this is probably the short-term adjustment period and things will settle into a more manageable routine soon. Can I just add, that you shouldn't feel the house has to be perfect at all times and when you get to know your helpers on a more personal level, you'll be able to relax more. Meantime, very best wishes and feel free to let off steam anytime on GN.

Annobel Fri 27-Jan-12 13:22:26

That must be trying for you both, Tosh. Surely this superabundance of professionals will come to an end soon and you will be left with (I hope) just the right amount of support. thanks

Tosh Fri 27-Jan-12 13:38:57

Thank everyone ...and for the birthday wishes. We actually left that day free and had to put 2 lots of people 'off'. I guess they are all strangers at the moment and we will soon get to know them. One of the 12 is a male nurse (home ventilation team) who has been 4 times and we really like him as you say it will soon settle down.
I knew you would keep me sane !!! xxxxxx grin

susiecb Fri 27-Jan-12 14:49:26

Tosh I do feel for you. for years and years now health and social care professionals have been discussing working together and mandating each other to minimise the numbers of people who need to visit patients at home to minimise the disruption you describe. I do hope that after their intial assessments that this settles down to the essential personnel and that you can get used to just a few key workers. Best wishes.

Sook Fri 27-Jan-12 15:06:32

Tosh I sympathise with you. Last year my husband had a bilateral hip replacement and I felt we were overun with health professionals, most of whom were very nice and helpful. I did draw a line though when it was suggested by the occupational therapist that we were visited by 'Cheer leaders' whose job it would be to come along and jolly my husband up. I appreciate that someone living on their own might benefit from that but I know it would driven both of us insane.

Best wishes

jeni Fri 27-Jan-12 15:33:32

I think that would drive me insane and I DO live on my own!

JessM Fri 27-Jan-12 15:43:29

Tosh that is tough. Bit like having your house on the market and having the estate agent ring up and demand to bring people round at no notice flat.
I agree, these folk are not visitors that need to be cleaned and tidied for. They go into lots of completely squalid, messy homes no doubt and in any case they are not there to inspect your cleaning and tidying are they. Or inspect how clean your husband is. They may have messy homes themselves come to that.
My MIL was having 'carers' coming in and they were sending a lot of different ones until we had a word with the agency. At least now she has one main one who comes every morning, which helps.
I know it is hard - but if this is going to go on maybe you could work out your own daily routine of doing things when it suits you and let the health professionals fit in around you.

kittylester Fri 27-Jan-12 16:38:03

Oh Tosh it's horrid isn't it. When my son came home from Japan, after having had a stroke, we had loads of assessments of the house etc and, one memorable week, I took him on 8 hospital appointments. It has all settled down now and you must look forward to a time when you and your husband are 'sorted'. Presumably things should be easier after that. Grab a sit down and brew preferably with cupcake whenever you get a chance. As others have said, they are not there to judge but to help but it is difficult to start with isn't it? It's an emotional rollercoaster - help is good but it brings with it a realisation of the situation.Take care and hopefully things will fit into place soon.thanks

Jacey Fri 27-Jan-12 17:17:05

I'm sorry to hear about this stress Tosh...but try to hold on to the fact that it is just in the 'short -term' and that hopefully in the 'long-term', when things settle down ...both you and your husband will have just the support you both need to maintain a good quality of life togethersunshine

Hang in there! thanks

gracesmum Fri 27-Jan-12 17:25:20

These "health professionals" are there to help YOU and your DH not a visitation to check on how good your housekeeping is, but I agree about not having the place to yourself. Like the others I hope the disruption is short-term and that life settles down to a more acceptable routine for you.
Belated birthday thanks and maybe a wine or two!