...if I feel like screaming !!!!

tosh YNBU, you have every right to feel under pressure, hopefully it will quieten down once they have all thrown in their pennyworth.
Hope you managed to enjoy your birthday in the middle of all the bedlam, did you see the thread with all you birthday wishes?

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Hang in there tosh! It must be a very anxious time, and you are certainly not being unreasonable. Before you know it you'll be able to have your home back and hopefully your feet up and a good cuppa. For what it's worth, I think you're doing a GRAND job.

Yes Tosh this is probably the short-term adjustment period and things will settle into a more manageable routine soon. Can I just add, that you shouldn't feel the house has to be perfect at all times and when you get to know your helpers on a more personal level, you'll be able to relax more. Meantime, very best wishes and feel free to let off steam anytime on GN.

That must be trying for you both, Tosh. Surely this superabundance of professionals will come to an end soon and you will be left with (I hope) just the right amount of support.

Thank everyone ...and for the birthday wishes. We actually left that day free and had to put 2 lots of people 'off'. I guess they are all strangers at the moment and we will soon get to know them. One of the 12 is a male nurse (home ventilation team) who has been 4 times and we really like him coming...so as you say it will soon settle down.
I knew you would keep me sane !!! xxxxxx

Tosh I do feel for you. for years and years now health and social care professionals have been discussing working together and mandating each other to minimise the numbers of people who need to visit patients at home to minimise the disruption you describe. I do hope that after their intial assessments that this settles down to the essential personnel and that you can get used to just a few key workers. Best wishes.

Tosh I sympathise with you. Last year my husband had a bilateral hip replacement and I felt we were overun with health professionals, most of whom were very nice and helpful. I did draw a line though when it was suggested by the occupational therapist that we were visited by 'Cheer leaders' whose job it would be to come along and jolly my husband up. I appreciate that someone living on their own might benefit from that but I know it would driven both of us insane.

Best wishes

I think that would drive me insane and I DO live on my own!

Tosh that is tough. Bit like having your house on the market and having the estate agent ring up and demand to bring people round at no notice flat.
BUT
I agree, these folk are not visitors that need to be cleaned and tidied for. They go into lots of completely squalid, messy homes no doubt and in any case they are not there to inspect your cleaning and tidying are they. Or inspect how clean your husband is. They may have messy homes themselves come to that.
My MIL was having 'carers' coming in and they were sending a lot of different ones until we had a word with the agency. At least now she has one main one who comes every morning, which helps.
I know it is hard - but if this is going to go on maybe you could work out your own daily routine of doing things when it suits you and let the health professionals fit in around you.

Oh Tosh it's horrid isn't it. When my son came home from Japan, after having had a stroke, we had loads of assessments of the house etc and, one memorable week, I took him on 8 hospital appointments. It has all settled down now and you must look forward to a time when you and your husband are 'sorted'. Presumably things should be easier after that. Grab a sit down and preferably with whenever you get a chance. As others have said, they are not there to judge but to help but it is difficult to start with isn't it? It's an emotional rollercoaster - help is good but it brings with it a realisation of the situation.Take care and hopefully things will fit into place soon.

I'm sorry to hear about this stress Tosh...but try to hold on to the fact that it is just in the 'short -term' and that hopefully in the 'long-term', when things settle down ...both you and your husband will have just the support you both need to maintain a good quality of life together

Hang in there!

These "health professionals" are there to help YOU and your DH not a visitation to check on how good your housekeeping is, but I agree about not having the place to yourself. Like the others I hope the disruption is short-term and that life settles down to a more acceptable routine for you.
Belated birthday and maybe a or two!