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AIBU to be a bit upset

(21 Posts)
granzilla Sat 17-Mar-12 20:21:17

We usually have our DGS overnight at weekends to give DD and her DH some time on their own.Tonight they cancelled at the last minute due to her being a bit hormonal (DGD expected in July) and wanted the three of them to be together.Absoloutely lovely.But I really miss him being here.Mad Granny or what ?They will all be here tomorrow so I should just think myself lucky instead of being so self indulgent,shouldn't I?

Carol Sat 17-Mar-12 20:28:55

There's something very special about having your precious grandchild sleeping upstairs and being able to peep in and watch them whenever you feel like. I loved that routine of supper, bath, story and bed, and looking in to make sure there was only a blond head peeping out of the quilt, all nice and snug. No, definitely not mad granzilla. Your grandson will be staying there again soon, by the sound of it. flowers

granzilla Sat 17-Mar-12 20:52:40

Thanks Carol.Nice to speak to people who understand.

glassortwo Sat 17-Mar-12 21:25:12

I think that first cuddle in the morning when they are all sleepy and toasty warm is just the perfect start to a day.

Carol Sat 17-Mar-12 21:27:50

Oooh, yes! bed hair and warm little bodies who are still half asleep and wanting a cuddle. Bliss x

grannyactivist Sat 17-Mar-12 21:32:35

Granzilla - I'm sure if you had known in advance that you weren't going to have your grandson to stay, you would have dealt with your feelings differently. You're obviously, and understandably, disappointed. You'll enjoy him all the more next weekend. (((hug)))

granzilla Sat 17-Mar-12 21:41:29

Aww thanks you guys.Have opened the wine now so feeling no pain.Seeing the family tomorrow for a while. Mx.

gracesmum Sat 17-Mar-12 23:19:52

I do think they might have given you some warning so that you could perhaps have had a night out yourselves. But you can understand them wanting to be together, can't you?

glammanana Sun 18-Mar-12 00:01:55

granszilla I know exactly how you feel, and I can also see where his parents are coming from also with 4 mths to go before new babe its not so long before 3 becomes 4 and they are savouring their time together before new babe arrives,take pleasure in knowing that you will be in high demand in the near future and enjoy.

Greatnan Sun 18-Mar-12 07:22:52

I think you are very lucky - I would give anything just to get some news of how my grandchildren are and what they are doing. I know I am not alone as there are so many sad tales of members who are denied contact through no fault of their own.

Carol Sun 18-Mar-12 07:40:04

Greatnan I guess you will be thinking about your daughter and her children today of all days, as will quite a few other Gransnetters who are currently not able to see their grandchildren. I hope things change for you soon. There have been a few pleasant surprises discussed on here, when things have suddently turned around, so I really hope that happens for you, too. You might not be in contact at the moment, but I bet you will come into their thoughts today. flowers

JessM Sun 18-Mar-12 08:13:06

I know you are not into big online displays of affection gn but consider yourself squeezed affectionately on the upper arm.

Greatnan Sun 18-Mar-12 08:16:46

Thank you, Carol. She has never been big on sending cards, so I didn't really expect to hear from her. I have had a long pm from her daughter on Facebook, but that might have been because I asked her if her bank details were still the same so I could send some money for my great-granddaughter's first birthday next month. She just chats about her own family and does not mention her mother or siblings. She has obviously been instructed not to give me even a shred of information. Her mother is paying her rent, I think, so she won't risk offending her.
I looked at the few cards I had received in the past from my daughter, saying what a wonderful mother I was and how grateful she was for all I did for her - before she became addicted to codeine.

Carol Sun 18-Mar-12 08:39:57

However tenuous the links Greatnan there is still that small amount of contact which has room to develop. I think you are a true stoic - you haven't given up, but have found your own level from which to manage a difficult situation. A little squeeze on the arm from me, too x

syberia Sun 18-Mar-12 09:38:10

I, too, live in hope. Not seen or heard from my son since November when we had a very traumatic meeting (posted elsewhere). No card on my birthday, no card today. Don't even know where he is living now.

BUT I am hopeful that he will contact me one day. sunshine

JessM Sun 18-Mar-12 09:54:47

Yes I remember syberia and I am sure mother's day is difficult for you. (squeeze on arm). Hope you able to do something nice.

syberia Sun 18-Mar-12 10:00:45

Thanks JessM. It is bittersweet, because my daughter has sent a lovely card, as she always does.

I will pamper myself and do just as I please today!! grin

grannyactivist Sun 18-Mar-12 10:12:15

Greatnan, syberia, me too. It's sad. I'm counting the blessings I have, but I do think of what I've missed and would love to meet my youngest granddaughter. sad

syberia Sun 18-Mar-12 10:18:19

ga flowers

Greatnan Sun 18-Mar-12 10:22:15

I really appreciate all your kind comments, and even some cyber-hugging!

goldengirl Sun 18-Mar-12 12:24:12

We had one of our GDs staying with us overnight recently with her cousin and it was lovely to see their relationship developing. They'd not seen each other for 7 years when my GD was just a baby. They had great fun together. As we don't have the GCs much for sleepovers I wouldn't miss a cancellation - or would I? hmm