I think a sons place is with his wife as I have had my 'turn' when my children where little,but I do find mothers day quite difficult as my daughters died one as a baby and one in her twenties a young mum herself,I am bringing up her daughter,which in turn is painful as she is angry that I am not her mum, and we have over the time developed ways of dealing with this in our own way.
My son has recently married and I have made it clear that his first priority is always his wife,so I am truly grateful for the support of the phone call/or card to show that he is aware of my feelings,I am separated from their father,although on very good terms,and have a very thoughtful partner who is very loving to me whatever day it is.......just want to say as a newbie am enjoying the posts and happy mothers day to you all