needing a virtual hug

... and a big hug from me Syberia.
As a MIL I was miles away when both GC were born but did get to visit for cuddles etc. Then DIL was persuaded by her Ma that she (Ma) should give up work to be their PAID childminder. I felt very 'side-lined' then, a feeling that persisted for years. I'm much more able to cope with the situation now But still wonder at what might have been as the other Granny had such strange ideas about what she fed them, for instance.
Sorry this is a bit 'off-topic' but you have had lots of lovely sensible Gransnetters advice, and I did want to add a different perspective, that is of the MIL.

I really can't add any more to everyone's words of wisdom but have a huge (((((((((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))))))))) xxxxx
Yes, GN is a wonderful place to be xxx

Syberia, shoulder and hugs from me. Hope it all goes well for you, your daughter and her partner.

What a difficult and troublesome time for you Syberia, there is such good advice and support here on all the previous posts, I just wanted to add a [hug]

Have had a wonderful, joyful, happy conversation with my daughter on the telephone today, it was just like old times!!

I hung in there and I bit my tongue and hopefully it will improve now. (If not, I will deal with it!)

Have just posted on another thread and that reminded me to come here and update!!

Lovely syberia she is your daughter after all, so she will most likely want things to be on top form, too

Oh brilliant news syberia!

syberia wonderful news

Daughters, we are lucky to have them but they can be grumpy. hugs Syberia

Syberia (((hugs))) So glad you had a good day. My step daughter was a prickly nightmare on the run up to the birth of her daughter, nobody could say the right thing. She was still a bit like it for the first three months, but now DSGD is an adorable 8 months, Mother is all smiles and back to her sunny self. It is a roller coaster!

syberia
"We do not want to see anybody for two weeks, ' cause we want to bond."
To her own mother??????

syberia

So glad your daughter sounded her old self when you spoke syberia if she is anything like my DD when she has been expecting I know how you are feeling mine was a complete nightmare,but as soon as all over back came the girl we all knew,it was just hormonal.

Phew. Hormones eh?

I think you are a saint for holding your tongue and treading carefully !
I would probably explode if my daughter was so sharp with me, pregnant or not.