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Is it unreasonable to expect that DD speaks to me like an adult

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glassortwo Sun 08-Apr-12 18:01:03

AIBU to expect that my Daughter speaks to me like an adult rather than a 5 year old, I have had to walk into another room I am steaming angry

glassortwo Sun 08-Apr-12 19:24:32

My son does not do it he is quite protective with me, don't know what is it about Daughters that they seem to think that once a Mother reaches a certain age she looses everything she once knew and becomes senile.

jeni Sun 08-Apr-12 19:26:40


greenmossgiel Sun 08-Apr-12 19:36:40

That's the case with me. Son gives me withering looks and sighs a lot...! He IS protective though! DD1 says 'Mu-um!' a lot, and DD2 tends to give advice (??!) Eldest granddaughter (22), explains things really well - more than necessary, really! grin

Annobel Sun 08-Apr-12 19:37:45

Sons do it, I assure you! But they are also protective.

jeni Sun 08-Apr-12 19:38:00


Annobel Sun 08-Apr-12 19:41:06


harrigran Sun 08-Apr-12 19:51:49

No glass YANBU. I would be most annoyed with my DD if she treated me like that. My family are very respectful.

jeni Sun 08-Apr-12 19:55:51

Too much information. Or three mile island!

Annika Sun 08-Apr-12 19:58:59

My friend told me that she had a "show down" with her daughter in town because when they were crossing the road her daughter took her by the hand and led her across the road.!!
My friend is only 62 and a young 62 at that !

glammanana Sun 08-Apr-12 20:02:17

Aren't DDs just great glass when they perform you remember back to when they where little and what your right hand was for ? mine had a few slaps on the leg for being cheeky and I don't mind admitting it to anyone.Just walk away and count to 10 and wait for the apology.

Anagram Sun 08-Apr-12 20:02:19

I think that's rather sweet!

(but patronising?)

Anagram Sun 08-Apr-12 20:03:08

Meant as a reply to Annika I hasten to add....

jeni Sun 08-Apr-12 20:16:18

Glamma. I have to confess my little 3year old madam wouldn't hold my hand when crossing a busy street. She had a tantrum when I insisted and I ended up putting her across my knee and spanking her in public!
I'm not ashamed. It was for her safety.
She was always a difficult determined child and still is at 38!
But I still love her,and my DGD is to die for!

Annika Sun 08-Apr-12 20:35:29

I once hit my DS with my slipper but .... I was also putting out a fire he had started in the bed room at the same time with it angry
We all lived to tell the tale and he has turned out to be a wonderful son smile

glammanana Sun 08-Apr-12 20:50:20

mr glamma is the most laid back person I have ever known and a wonderful father to our DCs but the one and only occassion I have ever seen him loose his cool was when DS1 was about 14rs old and finding his feet so to speak,I had just come home from work and quite casually asked him if his homework had been completed and he gave one of those 14 yrs old surly answers,his dad was just behind him and heard every word,he tapped DS2 on shoulder and picked him up by his shirt and held him against the kitchen wall and very gently said to him."when you speak to your mother think that you are talking to The Queen Mother and no one else" said DS2 then released by mr.glamma and told "now tell mum if your homework is finished son" That I can honestly say is the only time DH has had to comment to either of the boys,DD is another matter all together it would take for ever to tell you of her tantrums.

jeni Sun 08-Apr-12 20:53:20


Anagram Sun 08-Apr-12 20:56:07

Yes, Childline has a lot to answer for....wink

Grannylin Sun 08-Apr-12 21:01:41

My eldest DS has taken to calling me 'Mother', as in 'so Mother, what mad trips are you planning next? Unsure whether its protective, patronising or downright sarcastic!

jeni Sun 08-Apr-12 21:10:11

Same here! But he admits we're both slightly eccentric?

Greatnan Sun 08-Apr-12 21:18:00

I used to get 'M..u..u..m' in a wheedling voice when money was required, and 'Mother' when I had done something 'embarrassing'. Now they embarrass their children.

jeni Sun 08-Apr-12 21:36:14

And me!

Rector said the same thing in Merryn's welcome to the church! My DD had the grace to blush

Maniac Mon 09-Apr-12 08:23:05

My DDs also suggest I might be going deaf but they will persist in talking in a fast mumble/gabble ,with their back to me or when walking out of the room.

hummingbird Mon 09-Apr-12 08:46:02

Thank goodness it's not only me this happens to! My problems arise when I have issues with anything technical. Now I'm by no means stupid, but DS has a habit of interfering setting up all new devices, which means I don't really get to grips with them. So when iPad / iPhone / iPod go on the blink, naturally, I call the little treasure. He sighs. He throws his eyes up to heaven. He shakes his head. Then he turns the cursed thing off, then on again - it promptly works again! He gives me pitying look as he leaves, as I berate the said device for its intransigence!

bagitha Mon 09-Apr-12 09:41:36

I've never understood why people feel the need to scoff just because they are more knowledgeable about something than the person they're scoffing at. Very immature behaviour, I'd say. If someone tried it with me I'd ask them straight out why they felt the need to be nasty when I was consulting them about something in which they had more expertise than me.

bagitha Mon 09-Apr-12 09:42:46

In short, you don't have to put up with it! Bite back!