Over the last 15 years or so, our eldest son, child number 4, has been borrowing money from our eldest daughter, who is partly disabled and still lives with us. Granted, she very rarely goes out, and doesn`t spend an awful lot on herself, but as she says, her money in the bank is for her old age (she`s 48). But what he owes is somewhere in the region of £6,000, and although he initially paid about £50 a month, he hasn`t even attempted to pay her anything for about 2 years now, always claiming to be "skint". Yet last year they paid £400 for a husky puppy, and have just announced that they`ve bought another, to be collected on MAY 1st, costing more than the other one, they`re also bragging that they`ve both got PPI money to come back, he`s got £1,004 to come back, his wife is getting just short of £5,000. My husband asked today if they were giving his sister any of it, and the answer was that it`s spoken for already, and he was most put out to have even been asked! There was quite a chilly atmosphere after that, but in my mind, they shouldn`t keep rubbing my daughter`s nose in it if they don`t intend to pay her back. But to cap it all, just before they left, he asked his dad if he could let him have some money (we`re paying them to do some decorating for us), as they`ve no electric and need to top up their electric card! We don`t intend to pay them till they`ve done the job, because it would be just like them not to finish it, so hubby said he had no money on him, but they weren`t happy. Should we expect him to pay up, or should my daughter write it off as a lost cause?