I am so sorry to make this post when i have only just joined recently, but i have no one to turn to as i am embarrassed and ashamed to tell anyone i know.
I won't bore you with the intricate and long history behind my problem as i would be writing a novel, but it involves my daughter and her lack of care for my 2 grandaughters.
my daughter, like me, has suffered from depression for a long time. She has 2 daughters 10 and 4yrs old. We live nearby and have been heavily involved with the care of them even though i am disabled with a very painful spinal injury.
Once again we have fallen out because she is neglecting the girls and i just dont know what to do about it. Every time i try to talk to her about it or offer to look after them for her she tells me to stop poking my nose in.
Everything came to a head this morning. We had the 4yr old over for tea yesterday after school. I must add that her and i are extremely close and have that "special" bond. She told me that her teacher rang mummy and said she had to go home for a wash as she had an "accident" in bed the night before and after she had a wash she went back to school. As you can imagine i was mortified. I tried to broach the subject with my daughter who went bolistic and said it was just a one off as she put clean knickers out for her to wear to school and it was my little grandaughters fault for not putting them on!! i explained that se is only 4yrs old and could not be made responsible for it . I have now been threatened with not having access to the children and if i have a problem i should ring social services. i am tortured inside. I really really do not want to do that. The thought of losing the children scares me more than anything in the world. By the same token my conscience keeps telling me it is not right to accept this happening but i have no idea how to tackle it.
My daughter has told me she no longer wants any contact with me at all and any access arrangements are to be made by text to her partner.
Any advice or ideas would be greatfully received.
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