Son met DIL when she was 18 she was lovely and everyone loved her in our whole family - a kind caring v nice person. 8 years later they had a baby boy Son got made redundant when baby was 5 months old so she returned to work early from maternity leave and he stayed home caring for the baby. Then he had an affair with an old girlfriend. She told us she thought he was seeing X and he admitted it. We were all gutted and our whole family condemmed him for it - none of us knew what was going on.
They kept it together but she changed. Slowly she turned the child against him telling him daddy was mean spiteful nasty horrible. Then she would give the child anything dad said he couldnt have or do Child was 2years by now. Then son copied and did the same - so child is now quite disturbed ie badly behaved irritable agressive to other kids.
Time passed and she got pregnant again - didnt even tell son she thought she was pregnant just left the positive test on the worktop for him to find They have now moved across the other side of town just around the corner from her mum and sister. She never bothers to visit our extended family any more - previously she was best friends with son's aunts cousins etc very close almost part of their families too. She rarely visits us just sends son with the kids. Daughter went to visit (rang first and she just let her in then sat in the other room saying to son 'when is she going' until daughter left. She arranged for niece and aunt to visit then was out when they got there When we tried to visit she was too busy tied up for 2 days etc said she would get back to us but never did.
When she had the first baby we bought her a layette over £200 worth of baby things - she was so pleased and greatful. We took over another for the new baby - she just said oh shov it in the back room I'll have a look later never even said thankyou.
And the worst of the lot every time we buy a present for grandson it dissapears and she goes out and buys him the same. Its the same if anyone in our family buys him anything. Wierd I know but we have seen it so many times now - clothes toys anything she duplicates it herself.
Will it ever improve - should we cut all ties I dont know what to do.
Even on Fathers day she stopped son from going for a meal with me OH daughter other son and girlfriend. They were both invited and the kids but she had to see her father and go to his home instead ( she only sees her dad twice a year as she hates him) I think she hates all our family Cant believe she uses the child to spite son and the effect this has had on the child. Any advice
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