Bit of background:
DD is a single mum and the DGCs live with her (near us)in the week but see their father most weekends.
Before the divorce, DD had been a stay at home mum. Once the DGCs were both in school full time, she went back to work full time as her ex-husband wasn't prepared to support her and her divorce lawyer had advised her that she would be expected to get a job to maintain herself.
The divorce was very hard on DD, and while her ex found someone new very quickly, DD has found it hard with juggling full time work and wanting to be with the DGCs as much as possible to find a new partner.
I was happy to help her get back on her feet with a job by offering to take care of dropping off/collecting the DGCs from school and lookihg after them till DD got home, as we are both retired anyway and have good pensions, no mortgage, etc. To be honest I love the DGCs and their dad never liked me being around them too much so having the chance to see them day to day has been brilliant. But now my DD has moved on to a job with better pay, I think she should pay me more to look after them. She'd have to pay a childminder at least £400 a month for wraparound care and as she can afford this, I think she should pay me.
I raised this recently and DD felt it was unfair as she says she is still re-establishing her life and "expected" help from us as we had offered it. TBH we don't need extra money and it's not as though I'd prefer to be doing anything else as the DGCs are my life but I wonder if I'm being taken for a ride? What do fellow grans think?
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