Absolutely Petallus. Having been in a similar position where ex-DIL was alienating her son from his dad, I know what a world of difference it made when she 'gave permission' for son to be able to say that he wanted to see his dad. Poor kid trying to please everyone! They all need to sing from the same hymn sheet. 
hmm dad decided he wasnt picking GS up at 2-00 pm as arranged! decided he would come for him at 4-30! (daughter siad he sounded like he was hungover...) I did offer to take him to his dads at 2-00 and dad of course was happy with that (so what it boiled down to is ! he couldnt be bothered to make the journey of approx 8/9 miles to pick his son up! so...told him not to bother and me and GS had a great day at Blackpool water park/ a walk on the beach/a paddle in the sea and tea on the way home
Well, wait and see if he goes off ok this time, like he did on tuesday. Perhaps try not to talk about it before hand. Just tackle it once dad arrives to pick him up. Then his dad can sort it out if he plays up. He probably won't though. You don't want to meet trouble halfway.
GS (age 5 almost 6) has started lately, not wanting to go to his dads! my DD is sometimes working and therefore I have to do the switchover (GS dad comes to pick GS up from DD house) he was adamant he wasn't going last Tues and started crying , but when dad arrived he went off ok (I didnt make fuss etc) GS has little sister to play with when he gets there but his dad is not what you call the "playfull type" tends to buy him DVD etc and thinks thats it... Daughter is hopefully starting to form a new relation ship and this "new person" playes games and interacts with GS so therefore GS is thrilled to bits,, hence doesn't want to be go to his dads,(we realise this is what my mum calls the "honeymood period" so everything is ok with the new man at this moment.) I am due to hand GS over to his dad at 2pm today but again GS is firmly fixed that he is NOT! going. I am taking him to feed the hens and to make sure the new man is out fo the way beforehand (in the nicest possible way of course) DD is will have gone to work, Just wondering has anybody else had this situ....there is no court oder or anything like that it is mutual agrement that GS goes to his dads Tuesdays and 1 night every weekend.... whilst I realise we have to think of the welfare of GS we also have to relsie that his dad wants to see him and is entitled to. (we are not questoning that) . Also with GS going to his dads it does give Daughter a bit of a breather which we all need at some time..
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