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How I wish I could say enough is enough....

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Littlenellie Mon 23-Jul-12 12:41:03

The school holidays are on us again and I have been dreading it but trying to plan ahead with ideas..not very successfully I might add,we are day 1 and they do not return until the 7th September,I had invited another child from where we lived to keep E company as the activities for her are non existent here,to have another body here is difficult due to size of house,but we get round it, one thing I didn't plan on was my son and his wife have seperated..they only married last October...I contributed financially...He was savaged by DIL dog...another saga...and we were asked to drop all and rush down to help that was a,onto ago it cost us money we don't have,and as Kerry's carer he only had pocket money,they mutually decided to seperated whilst she was in hospital...her CF was causing her problems...he came back to live with us ..on the sofa with his dog....he has applied for council housing..long wait he was a council tenant with Kerry in our old area...and as he has no job ..he is looking and applying,cannot get deposit for private rent,we are keeping him..not his fault I know,but expensive,I am trying to keep peace all round as OH is a saint as he puts up with lot from E..son is no trouble but used to living his own life and finding hard to live under our roof again,E is just being E....on top of that we are having a new kitchen fitted which is so disruptive and the backlog of washing etc for 4is getting to me as well as trying to provide money and food etc,son doesn't drive he needs to be taken to places as no bus route,and no money so I have to take him,he is bored and fidgety and worried ,his dog is digging up my garden,I feel stretched so much my BP is sky high already take medication for it and stress and out of question no money school uniform to buy it too much to want the uncomplicated life ,I long just to please myself,and be the past have had this scenario with my brother living with me for two years...and a widowed mum for 20 years being very needy,and a mother in law also...I am so strung out .......rant over

Ella46 Mon 23-Jul-12 21:08:01

Good for you nellie Sock it to 'em! smile

Bags Mon 23-Jul-12 21:16:47

Glad to hear it, nellie. Sleep well and wake up fighting!

Anagram Mon 23-Jul-12 21:23:11

Not literally, of course, or OH might object! grin

whenim64 Mon 23-Jul-12 21:29:11

nellie flowers smile

Faye Mon 23-Jul-12 22:10:07

nellie Well done! flowers sunshine

Littlenellie Tue 24-Jul-12 07:42:44

Just want to say a huge thank you for helping me sort my head out yesterday,I need to listen to my body when it says "enough" I had forgotten that extreme tiredness and stress is one of my triggers for a lovely bout of depression,I had felt better for a long while and ignored my big hugs to you all for kicking the "black dog" up the backside and sending to pee somewhere else...sunshine

Bags Tue 24-Jul-12 07:49:27

Morning, nellie! Keep strong. smile

Ella46 Tue 24-Jul-12 08:04:22

Hi nellie Hope you have a better day today smile sunshine xx

soop Tue 24-Jul-12 13:57:49

Have just logged on Nellie and reading your latest news. Things appear to be settling down. Don't worry about the choc smears on your face. As long as you are wearing a sunny smile who cares! As for the 'black dog', I'm sure that nice man from the RSPCA could remove him from your premises. wink

Littlenellie Tue 24-Jul-12 15:12:30

Oh yes soop almost worth having the black dog ...not. grin

Littlenellie Tue 24-Jul-12 15:14:29

Ooh that looks sarky didn't mean it like that sunshinexxx

greenmossgiel Tue 24-Jul-12 15:30:30

Now - there you go worrying again, nellie! I know what you mean - it's like taking off your corsets and having a good scratch! That'll start another thread off, I'll bet! grin

soop Tue 24-Jul-12 16:20:54 this time, I know whether a comment is meant to be sarky, or not. I've yet to find you in that particular frame of mind. flowers

Littlenellie Wed 25-Jul-12 10:06:09

green you have been peeping at me again. baloo the bear has nothing on me when I take my corsets off grin

Littlenellie Wed 25-Jul-12 10:15:15

soop our strengths are also our weaknesses and I can be very sarcastic it is one of my downfalls...I can be very quick with a comeback and the get the foot In mouth feeling after...being quick to reply is not always a blessing...also very dry and sometimes it goes over people's head and sometimes lands straight on it depending on who I am talking too....but never in my humour will I knowingly hurt upset or offend or ridicule disability or be unkind or uncaring of people's feelings,it has been said before you cannot see facial expressions or language to convey humour and I worry constantly that I will cause mouth is like a loaded gun..with an idiot behind it..grin

soop Wed 25-Jul-12 12:03:16

Bless!!! smile

Barrow Fri 27-Jul-12 10:18:20

Have just caught up with this thread - hope things continue to go well with you. Your OH sounds very supportive which I am sure is a great help - keep up the "me" time. I think the problem with us women is that we tend to think that we have to deal with everything and as a result take on too much - I'm sure we have all done it at times.

If you crack up then they would all have to cope so take some time for yourself. I also suffer with "the black dog" and was told that on reviewing my day to day routine there was no time left for me - now I make sure there is. If the cleaning isn't done - so what. if the washing up is still in the sink - forget about it or get someone else to do it.

Take care

Littlenellie Fri 27-Jul-12 10:27:20

thank you Barrow I am so glad after " coming out " that Many other people suffer from the " the black dog" I appear to be normal after allxxxxflowers

soop Fri 27-Jul-12 13:07:32

Littlenellie I prefer to accept that we're all inclined to be a little bit barmy. If my comment upsets anyone...may I apologise before I get sent to the naughty corner. grin

Littlenellie Fri 27-Jul-12 17:35:43

soop grin