You are right, you should have resolved this years ago, however, I don't think your mother buying you clothes is her trying to control you ?? Unless she tries to exert control in other areas of your life?
Your mother throwing that cardigan back at you was ungreatful and rude and you should have told her so. Presents are not compulsory but its amazing how many people get offended by them or think they should have some say in what someone chooses to buy them !
As long as you allow someone to be rude to you they will continue. The loving thing to do is to tell the person that you feel hurt by their actions.and if necessary don't flaming well buy them a present again !
Is it me or am I getting mixed messages
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