Hi everyone,
Thankyou for your kind messages,
This man my daughter has chosen to be with, is as i see him obsessive and possessive.
I live in hope that when the granddaughters grow up they will choose to come and see me.
My daughters ex partner contacts me and sends me photographs of the girls via facebook, he told me last week that they have not forgotten me and he talks to them about me, my husband and son who my daughter has cut off as well so i am grateful for that.
I just dont understand how my daughter could want to be with someone like the man she is now with and how she just cant see what kind of a person he is and what he does to other people, if it was one of her friends partners she would be the first to point all this out.
They say love is blind so maybe this is the reason.
I do think of the granddaughters every day for a few minutes and focus on getting on with things in my own life as i think it is the only way of coping.
What makes the situation worse is i did not have a very good relationship with my own mother but i never stopped her seeing my children and my daughter knows this and have commented on it, i would take them down and wait for my mother to answer the door, let the children go in and arrange to pick them up later until they were old enough to go and visit on their own.