KittylesterI agree totally with what you say. When I first 'found' Gransnet earlier this year I thought how different it was from Mumsnet, in that the postings were helpful, thoughtful and non-judgemental. I had a lot of help from Gransnetters when I posted about my personal difficulties, and I was, and am, very grateful for that.
I don't post very often, usually because others have made my point much more eloquently. I also don't like confrontation, and although this is an anonymous forum I still find it difficult to post on some topics. I have no issue with somebody disagreeing with my opinion, or pointing out that something I have said may be offensive (either here on in real life). Depending on whether I agree or not, I will either stand my ground or apologise.
The last few weeks on GN have really made me back off, even when I have been tempted to post. Every post seems to revert to the same old thing, it reminds me of the playground in my teenage years, and also why I don't have a large circle of friends in real life. I would rather have my own company than have to deal with the backstabbing and b**chiness that can sometimes occur when a large group of people get together - either 'virtually' or 'actually'.
The forum would be a poorer place if all the 'quiet' ones left.
Anyway, that's my twopennyworth, and as it's too early for I'm off for a and maybe a browse around the Arts and Craft thread.