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To tip, or not to tip? that is the question...

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Goose Wed 12-Dec-12 09:00:49

Oops, I did it againhmm

I went to the hairdresser yesterday as she desperately wanted to know if I've been on holiday recently (no, I'm kidding!). I needed to have an inch off the bottom. After 15mins sitting, snipping, sipping and chatting I was escorted to the checking-in desk where I was charged £17 (at my hasty calculations nearly £70 an hour) which in my befuddled head seems a lotta money - yes, I know if I look around I could find 'special super cut prices' but I've been going there a long time and trust the cutter - but why, oh why do I then feel the deep obligation of handing out a £3 tip and immediately resenting it? This is a qualified hairdresser who's on a pretty decent wage...and me? a fully qualified nan on a pension-pittance..(I won't even start on my chickening out stories when it comes to taxi driversblush.
I'd like to think it's not just me being a purse clutching skinflint. Does anyone else out there in Nanaland have the same feelings?

annodomini Sun 16-Dec-12 15:05:26

You can get a good hairdo that way, boatlady and their beauty departments can also provide a lovely manicure and/or pedicure. I think you can get a massage too, from some of their classes. Cut price luxury!

boatlady Sun 16-Dec-12 13:42:10

I used to go to the college to have my hair done, the students need models and you get it done for less than half price so giving a tip is a lot easier on the purse

HappyNanna Sat 15-Dec-12 20:14:55

I always tip my hairdresser. I have my colour done and a cut every 2 months or so. I don't give 10% though. Just a couple of quid to the girl who does my colour and a couple of quid to the cutter. Usually £1 to the girl who shampoos as she gives me a lovely head massage when she puts the conditioner on.
As for the postman, he's great, very cheerful and chatty (all year round, not just at Christmas). He always leaves parcels for us if we are not in, saving us a round trip of 8 miles to the sorting office. This year we gave him £

dahlia Sat 15-Dec-12 18:02:07

We always tip in restaurants, etc., if the service is good, but never have service added to the bill. If service bad, no tip. At my hairdressers, I give Lottie a tip but I know she will share this with the girl who shampoos, too. They do a very good job and are always cheerful.
This year we will give postman a bottle of wine (he loves the vino) as he is so helpful and friendly, popping in to see how the work is going on the new build, etc. Dustmen have been marvellous, take everything we leave out (which, with the new work has been quite a bit!), so they will get a Christmas box, too. We also have a very cheery coalman, so DH has stated he will be giving him something extra next week. It's lovely to have your efforts recognised, and we do genuinely appreciate all their extra work.

Nonu Sat 15-Dec-12 17:23:37

Always tip the Cabbie , but never hotels , except in Mauritius where the service is exceptionally high .

Also they are on low wages .

smile smile

Ian42 Sat 15-Dec-12 17:12:45

I don't tip my barber, nor do I tip Taxi drivers, mainly because charges vary from day to day. I do tip in restaurants if the service is very good and in hotels again if the service is very good.

Nansypansy Sat 15-Dec-12 06:44:04

I'm afraid I've got mean about tipping hairdressers. I use a small salon and its the owner who does my hair. I used to tip but the last time the price went up, I decided that was it, and used my previous tip to accommodate the new price. It doesn't stop me feeling guilty every time I go though!

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mrsmopp Sat 15-Dec-12 00:31:45

I have worked since 1962 and nobody has ever tipped me!

But then I am not a taxi driver, waitress or a hairdresser.
Why should they be any different? We all do a job of work!

harrigran Sat 15-Dec-12 00:13:58

Just asked DH and he says yes he tips the barber but not a huge amount.

Goose Fri 14-Dec-12 22:01:56

Just a thought - do men tip their hairdressers/barbers???

Goose Fri 14-Dec-12 20:45:51

wheniwasyourage I'm new to this site (wish I'd found it years ago) and don't really know how GN campaigns work but the idea sounds magnificent! The whole tipping question certainly seems to have opened a can of worms - there seems to be a lot of different perspectives towards it smile

ajanela I agree with your sentiments on things never changing whilst tipping continues as a substitute for propping up poor wages angry

ajanela Fri 14-Dec-12 19:56:03

There is a difference between tipping for a job well done and tipping because you think it is expected. It is the expected bit that makes me feel uncomfortable but is it me who thinks they expect it or do they?

If you think your hairdressers are on a low wage things will never change if you continueing supporting the boss by giving tips to make up the wages of her staff. Also as this is Gransnet many of us are on much lower wages than we expected due to reduced Pensions.

Wheniwasyourage Fri 14-Dec-12 19:31:31

Conni and Goose you are both spot on! I hate tipping too and would much rather pay the proper price for whatever it is. It is totally illogical that taxi drivers expect a tip but bus drivers don't, even when they are kind enough to wait for a running GN-er who is charging up to the bus stop. Would a GN campaign help?

jO5 Fri 14-Dec-12 19:25:25

You'd better not sign out. You will never be able to find your way back in.

(I didn't see your original post there. Hope it was not too rude smile)

Well, sort of hope.

jO5 Fri 14-Dec-12 19:23:54

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Goose Fri 14-Dec-12 16:52:56

Conni I'm with you on your thoughts. It does, to me feel 'superior' to tip! Hairdressing tipping seems to be a real minefield, because the wages paid to the staff vary so drastically - unlike taxi drivers, waiters etc, and I'd rather pay overall more for a service, whatever it be, than go through the embarrassment of not knowing if, or what to tip.
This whole chat has got me round to pondering where the whole tipping thing originated and why only for certain areas? why aren't all low paid workers tipped for what they do? (where will it end!). Today I couldn't find a packet of Hob-Nob lookie-likey biscuits in the local supermarket and asked an assistant for help, I was led to the shelf (by the washing-powders, of course!?) by a chatty, friendly young assistant, that I know for sure is on a very low wage (I'd say they were under 18yrs) but it would not enter my head to tip why is tipping rife in some areas of work and not others? hmm. Anyone know about the 'history' of tipping?

Conni Fri 14-Dec-12 16:06:32

I hate tipping. I think it's putting myself in a superior position. But I do it because I feel it's expected and I don't want to be mean. I usually tip the hairdresser and the shampooer 10% each, so am I over generous? Restaurants get 10%, but I know people who deduct the price of the wine and then give 10%. New Zealand was great as they don't do it there. I wish we could abolish the whole business and pay a reasonable price instead.

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grannyJillyT Fri 14-Dec-12 11:33:24

I only tip the apprentice. If the hairdresser is the owner of the salon then I do not feel obliged, if it is a someone who just works there then I would tip her/him but £1 maximum - these are difficult times for all of us so I feel I should cut my cloth accordingly.

ginny Thu 13-Dec-12 23:14:41

Only tip if someone has done something over and above the' call of duty'.

Sook Thu 13-Dec-12 23:07:43

Only for excellent service.

york46 Thu 13-Dec-12 16:59:39

I do wish the whole business of who to tip and when to tip and when not to tip could be sorted out once and for all. It would save great embarrassment all round. I do tip my hairdresser, but only because I'd feel uncomfortable if I didn't - coward that I am!!!

Mishap Thu 13-Dec-12 16:09:08

I've never tipped a hairdresser in my life. And I certainly don't tip my current one as she is a friend who wanders up the lane with her scissors and charges me £6!