DH's sister hasn't been in touch for years. There was no row or upset as far as I can remember she just stopped all communication with her family. We know they moved house and we managed to get hold of an address from a cousin but we weren't sure if birthday and Christmas cards were reaching her as she didn't reply. Her husband is a -bit of a wimp nice amiable sort of bloke so we couldn't understand the big silence and as we don't have addresses for her married daughters, we couldn't ask them what was wrong. When DH had a stroke two years ago I wrote to tell her using the only address I had but there was no reply so I assumed she didn't get it.
This morning, you could have knocked me down with a feather when I opened a card and saw their names at the bottom. A one line message just said, Address Correct! Lovely
When I looked further I noticed a small Round Robin type note. Obviously, we're not the only ones who have been left out in the cold because the note begins, Dear Friends and Family and suggests it's time we all kept in touch! Apparently she no longer likes chatting on the phone so will only accept communication via e-mail, 'assuming we HAVE a computer' (her words)
DH is pleased she is in touch but also can't understand her manner. I think she's had some kind of breakdown but am annoyed at her self-centered attitude. A supportive letter when DH was seriously ill would have been very welcome.
I will definitely reply because I think we DO need to keep in touch. I'm not one for holding grudges and if she is ill we will be supportive but I'm a bit annoyed with her attitude.
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