or even childish - but does anybody understnad how I feel?

Better still , as why didn"t she keep her proverbial t--- shut as a newer member .

Not unreasonable. Would definantley have felt the same.

should have been last !

I would have felt hurt too Gracesmum. Is there one particular member responsible for co-ordinating email addresses and so forth?

No, it was pure chance that one person started it and presumably the others just hit "Reply all" and nobody noticed I wasn't ccd in!

Not unreasonable at all, gracesmum, and I would class the new member's comment as 'childish' in the extreme...

Sometimes when the list is long grace you don't see all the names listed...don't be hurt, keep going, just give her the benefit of the doubt..( and avoid her like the plague)

I'd have :- 1. Thumped her
2. Burst into tears
3. Walked out?

Probably not the best response but that's me!

I'm a sensitive little big flower!

I think it would be easy not to notice. It always amazed me at work that one guy did read all the email addresses and noticed if someone was missed or was still on and shouldn't be.

I think the newbie probably thought she was being funny but should not have said that until she knew you well enough to know you would see it that way.

Don't let it worry you though, in the overall scheme of things this is not such a biggy as you have been going so long and enjoy it.

'Tan-trum' would have had me spitting feathers. How rude and childish to respond to you like that. Was the 'tan-trum' email only sent to you or was everyone copied in to it? Oh I am spitting feathers even though it wasn't sent to me.

Don't get mad, get even, gracesmum. Your chance will come

like it!

grrranny I don't know anymore - I deleted it in my huff!!

Pity gracesmum cos it could have been 'accidentally' forwarded to the other members of the group under the guise of 'isn't this funny' or something but as merlot said, your time will come and they will see that it isn't sunshine that is wafting around.

It's easily done, but that doesn't excuse her rude behaviour. I have replied to group emails and received curt notes reminding me that I keep sending emails to someone who is no longer part of that group. Did the person who initiated the original email realise you weren't on it? I guess the others wouldn't have looked when replying.

grace although you deleted the email it should still be in your "deleted/bin folder". Have a look and see if you can find it

I would have been very upset and annoyed too, so you're not being at all unreasonable

Put it behind you. Try really hard to forget it. Just try to be as pleasant to this person as you are to the rest of the group. Enjoy the books and the meetings. Hanging on to this will not solve anything. Let it go.

Like you say, nose/face.

My response would be a withering look and ignoring the said new member for the rest of the meeting, but being exceptionally nice to all the others.

Stupid woman! Why don't you turn all the sweetness and light you can muster on to her, so that she is completely confused. It would take some doing, but might just be worth it. And the wonderful thing is, she'd have nothing of which to accuse you because you were being nice. (From Devious of Bideford)

I agree with merlotgran. Your turn will come, and remember -what goes around comes around.

Stupid woman indeed! - there's always one in any group!

I think I would have felt hurt to - but that does not mean that any hurt waas intended.

That dippy woman's response is a pain!

Perhaps you could propose that a proper email address list be put together and sent to everyone to makwe sure that no-one gets missed off again.

You could propose it in a constructive and neutral way. just pointing out that you would not want anyone to be missed out!

I'm with Ariadne. The nastier people get, the more charming and polite I become. The contrast is difficult to maintain when the person being horrible starts to look unreasonable to the rest of the group.

You could actually say to her and the rest of the group, in a straightforward and calm way, how you felt about being overlooked and being on the receiving end of a unwarranted comment. It seems you have some long standing and dear friends in the group - surely they would understand. In effect, you'd be standing up and saying 'I matter' - and I doubt very much you'd be forgotten again, and the silly woman would think twice before opening her mouth.

Well, Gracesmum that's your support network set up! Shall we all come to the next meeting?