Bill sharing

Graces mum you are wise if you knew the chap you would understand he would have no way split it if I had fillet steak plus sauce and oh had pud!
We are not petty! Just like most people do not like being taken advantage of.

Let it go just learn from it!

I expect we lucky financially as Oh works still works one day and we saved hard for retirement it irritates hell out of me when people brag about their car just seems so empty ! Thanks for comments feel sadly friendship on way out.

I think you are right kitty it is sad after long while

No is not that we strapped for cash mice just don't like being taken for ride!

I can remember departmental meals where one member (who I know was very hard up at the time) would always order the most expensive things e.g. the "extra "charge" fillet steak or whatever and we used to just divvy up the bill. It was always so predictable, but the overall extra cost to the rest of us was minimal. So why worry. I think the only way woth friends is to simply split the bill - unless there are extenuating circumstances. Good friendship is worth more than the cost fo a steak or an extra bottle of wine.
However, were I lucky enough to be the "loaded" one - I might have the sensitivity to say "we'll split the bill but the drinks are on me"

Wise words Kitty Mice and Barrow

If you can afford to put that wee bit more than you need to, in order to make life easy then I cannot see the problem. If you are struggling a bit why not make the rules clear before you eat? Something like " if its okay with you two we will just pay for what we have " they could hardly refuse could they? And if its neither of these well I think the answer to the question is that the friendship is probably on its way out.

To a certain extent I can see where celebgran is coming from. When we would go for meals with friends we would split the bill and most of the time it evened itself out. However, there was one couple who seemed to take advantage. The wife would ALWAYS order the most expensive thing on the menu then just poke at it and leave most of it on the plate. The husband would insist on ordering the wine, which was always very expensive and white (we were red wine drinkers) so they would drink most of it. We always came away feeling we had been taken advantage of. This would happen every time we went out so eventually we stopped seeing them.

Getting angry about a pound or two is probably not doing you any good at all. If you are strapped for cash, then perhaps it's best not to go out for meals. If, on the other hand, you are comfortably off, does it really matter?

Doesn't it even out eventually celeb? We always split the bill on the basis that life is too short to worry about a few pence with friends. Maybe you have outgrown your friendship with these people.