I have never really got on with my Mil, she has made it clear I am not good enough for her DS, is hypercritical and cantankerous, often saying upsetting things. I cope with this by being polite but distant. I know she is my DH mother, is 93 and not in the best of health, even though she lives independently . I have tried to involve her in family events etc. DH takes her shopping, out to lunch, and she regularly has a meal here( at least twice a week). However, last night was the last straw. Nothing was good enough. The pasta was not cooked ( it was), her tv wasn't working ( it is), there are too many black people around etc, ,but when I asked her to stop being aggressive and angry when it wasn't our fault, she really went into one. I am the worst DiL in the world! she much preferred my DHs other girl friends, I dont put any photos of her on the wall, I am a rotten mother, why couldn't I be more like my sister, everyone loves her except me etc etc. when I said calmly that I was cool towards her because she had upset me on many other occasions and had never apologised she got even angrier. I didn't shout ( unlike her who shouts and spits all the time) and this makes her even worse. She stormed out saying she was never going to come to our house again. My DH calmed her down and took her home,she didn't finish her meal except for the wine! My DH feels he us still got to maintain contact,, although he is golden boy and never comes in for her bile, apart from marrying me I suppose! DH says we should just let her stew for a bit and she will be lonely and forget her anger. Should I insist on an apology? Just avoid her totally and say DH has to see her alone? Exclude her from family gatherings? Or just carry on as before and pretend she hasn't said such upsetting things to me? Excuse the rant, just writing it down makes me feel a bit better.
Lasr two letters continued Jan 24
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