Hi You have been on my mind. I agree with the previous message, especially the bit about getting on with your own life. I had (have) a similar situation but with step-daughters and their children. Sadly, several years ago I let their controlling nature get the better of me and almost had a breakdown. Thankfully I was persuaded by a good family friend to have some counselling, along with my husband ( the father of the young women) and it was the best thing that could have happened.
It helped me to distance myself from the power-struggle that was building-up, and deal with my feelings and emotions in a reasonable and sensible way. I learned that i was only responsible for the way I acted and reacted,not for the way they behaved and that really was the beginning of being able to be free from it all.
Both my husband and I now have a healthier relationship with all concerned and although the women are still controlling and rather aloof, we are not restricted in keeping in touch with our grandchildren and as they are all now growing up, they contact us from time to time of their own accord via new tech (they all live far away from us).
It was hard to let go of the hurts but I am sure that i have learned some valuable life-lessons and vital concepts from the counselling that help me not only in this family situation, but in other relationships too.
I wish you all the best, and much joy in the future with your grandchildren and son and daughter-in-law once the heat goes out of the situation. You only have one life after all, and only you can make it the best that it can be.
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