I will try and answer a few questions, then I am finished with the problem (teeth) on here due to the fact I had a message asking me to stop talking about it. I am going to respect that and no longer talk about the teeth etc. I do not feel it is necessary to say who sent it. It would not change the fact that it was sent.
I asked when I went to the CYS (child and youth services), at first I called and then I went to the office, that if I wrote a letter, if anything would help. They still contend it is hear say, I have no direct knowledge of it happening. It was told to me by my grandson and son. My son said it didn't matter to him, he felt his child had not been hurt (yes, there was a discussion between him, my husband and myself) but to no avail. My son said he stood there while my dil held the child and you know the rest. he is not going to inform on himself for not helping the child. My son takes her side in all and will not see anything different. My husband and I have tried to talk to both of them, him alone, but the has changed and is not the son we used to know.
He was a friendly, helpful person, not anymore. He seems to hate the world. He has not let anyone from his side of the marriage ever meet his children and my gs will be 6 next month. We have a large family and the gc have a great grandmother that they have never met. Only her side counts. He doesn't initiate talking to us. I guess he hasn't figured out communication is a two way street. He didn't even let us know when the new baby was being born, we found out through a friend. She is 1 1/2 months old now. The reason I don't talk about him is that he is pretty much, not in the picture, he defends everything she says or does. He has no ideas of his own. When we ask him a question, he tells us to talk to her. You can't get through to him. And he is our only child. So, we have lost our son and gs. Maybe, it will be easier for you to understand how hard it is. Both my husband and I are miserable, but both coping.
I truly appreciate the nice words and thoughts people have given me. Thank you for reaching out.