My sons partner moved in with him three years ago and they have an 18 month old gorgeous little boy.
We enjoyed a good relationship with DIL until DGS was a few months old and then for no reason that we are aware of, she became distant and, at times, quite rude. We have never been intrusive (only go to the house if invited by her, babysat on request etc) , critical or unkind to her. We were so sad but put it all down to post natal depression. Things eventually got back on a reasonable track until March of this year when I suddenly became very ill and spent a week in intensive care followed by a further month in hospital. Since then she has barely had any contact with me. She has been to our house once - and that was to collect her birthday present (she didn't want us to bring it to the house). Since coming out of hospital my son brings DGS to see us for a couple of hours at the weekend and we love to see him. DS is aware of DIL distancing herself from us but has no explanation for it. He is very frustrated and angry about it. Her mother, who lives some distance away visits for the day frequently. No problem with that BUT I recently emailed DIL and said we would, if possible, like to resume the occasional visit as we are happy to watch DGS while she gets on with her chores (this was always the basis of our visits before I was hospitalised) and her response was that she is very busy but we could see him on a Monday morning - she would meet us at the local park (weather permitting) at 9.00am where she will drop DGS off and will pick him up at 10.45! She said DGS is very clingy to her so she wouldn't be able to get on with her work if we were there (make of that what you will).
To say we were speechless is an understatement! I have told DS and he said he will invite us to the house when he is home from work. He's annoyed that DIL is blatantly sidelining us when he has lived in his home for ten years and we have never 'abused' visiting. However I see further problems arising and have asked him not to say anything for the time being while I work out my response to the suggestion Of course we are fortunate that we have been able to see DGS for a couple of hours a week but can't understand why DIL is almost banning us from the house. We dont drink or smoke or use bad language so what the *k is wrong with her - sorry couldn't resist that!! Anyone got any suggestions?? I'm not trying to project myself as a paragon of virtue or the perfect GM but really, we have only ever shown her kindness and respect (but we don't get much of that back - sad)
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