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AIBU to think the only person who should open mail is the person it's addressed to

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ninathenana Tue 06-Sep-16 17:01:20

annsixty My brother had this problem when living with mum. She would open everything and hide it while he was at work.
We bought an American type postbox that we attached to the wall by the front door. My brother had the only key.
Utility bills are in my name but despite it being obvious what they are H would still not open them. He certainly wouldn't open anything personal nor would I.

nickynacky Tue 06-Sep-16 16:56:28

I'm glad it is not just me

M0nica Tue 06-Sep-16 16:54:34

I agree with you annsixty. I wouldn't dream of opening DH's post unless it is one of the household bills I deal with and I know is in his name. He would not open any post of mine.

Prior to retirement he travelled world wide on business and was away for weeks at a time. I then had his agreement to open everything to make sure that credit cards etc were paid on time etc, but I would NEVER open private correspondence.

annsixty Tue 06-Sep-16 16:45:54

One of my H's new foibles with his condition is to rush to the door when the post arrives and to stand in the porch sorting the mail and trying to see who it is from.
He will open and read everything if I don't stop him. It so riles me. I tell him not to do it but that is a waste of time. As soon as I open something he wants to know what is is , he does it with our son as well. He can't help it but it is the height of rudenedd to me.

Anya Tue 06-Sep-16 16:45:23

Only if it looks interesting....those white envelopes with a window....never!

Ana Tue 06-Sep-16 16:43:04

Anya! grin

(surely not...wink)

Anya Tue 06-Sep-16 16:39:31

I steam open anything that looks interesting. If you read if quickly enough the heat from the steam keeps it sticky and you can reseal it so you'd never know.

tanith Tue 06-Sep-16 16:39:24

My OH has never opened an envelope addressed to me and vise versa but I would have no problem if he did, in fact if I'm busy and he picks up the mail I will say just open it .
I think its only respectful not to unless asked.

jinglbellsfrocks Tue 06-Sep-16 16:35:38

If I didn't open anything that arrives in a brown envelope, it would stay unopened. Or those white envelopes with a window.

nickynacky Tue 06-Sep-16 16:28:48

I just saw something on social media where someone was saying they were happy for their partner to open their mail and wondered if it was just me who was surprised by this? Of course if I have ordered, say, something for the house and it arrives, and it's obvious what it is then fine. But other post? No! Apart from the fact I like the act of opening it (unless it's a bill), I feel what is sent to me is sent to ME. Don't get me wrong - I have a happy and trusting relationship with my partner and I have nothing to hide. But my mail is my mail (luckily he feels the same)