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Harper Beckham

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MawBroon Tue 11-Jul-17 06:30:58

AIBU to feel a tad nauseous at all this fuss? Why doesn't Princess Eugenie host a party for children with life limiting illnesses? Or who may have been directly or indirectly affected by the Grenfell Tower fire? Or disadvantaged kids?
I don't criticise any parents for making a fuss of their little girl's birthday but this over publicised "Royal/Celebrity" combination strikes me as unutterably NAFF.

Rigby46 Tue 11-Jul-17 19:57:50

It's the way people post on social media in general about celebs/RF as though they do know something about them - we know only what they want us to and the relationship between that and reality is completely unknown. I assume nothing about any of them except that none of them probably pay enough tax and wouldn't dream of either assuming the worst or giving them the benefit of the doubt.

Maggiemaybe Tue 11-Jul-17 19:55:56

I meant the Beckhams there. But it's probably a good rule to apply to the ordinary folk as well!

Maggiemaybe Tue 11-Jul-17 19:54:18

Indeed. Which is why I'd rather give them the benefit of the doubt, rather than assuming the worst.

Iam64 Tue 11-Jul-17 19:51:46

We know nothing meaningful about any people, unless we're very close and confide in each other. Even then, there are secrets and lies in the lives of so,many 'ordinary' families.

Rigby46 Tue 11-Jul-17 19:44:53

We know nothing meaningful about the life of such people and are deluded if we think we do

Maggiemaybe Tue 11-Jul-17 19:43:10

I wonder how much of a close loving family they were when he was perusing his xtra marital affairs maggiemaybe ?

I don't know for sure, BlueBelle, I'm afraid I'm not privy to their private lives and feelings. They renewed their marriage vows a year after the allegation (I only know of one that wasn't later withdrawn), and have since had another child, so I assume they were pretty solid, yes.

Rigby46 Tue 11-Jul-17 19:41:53

I just despair at the whole celeb culture and the RF's intermeshing with it. It's cheap, tacky, worthless

BlueBelle Tue 11-Jul-17 19:35:45

I have no interest envy or desire for the beckhams life style which I m sure is no Worse than many others .....I was just putting an example forward that they are not a cosy wonderful little fairy tale family

rafichagran Tue 11-Jul-17 19:34:42

Does not bother me at all. They have always dime things in a big grandiose way.

Iam64 Tue 11-Jul-17 19:22:40

Yes, he's had affairs. How tough for VB to have this happen in full public gaze. Yes, maybe they stayed together in part because their work s centred around brand Beckham. It's also entirely possible, that like many couples where men stray, they have tried and maybe are still trying, to keep the family together for the sake of their children.
I wouldn't exchange my life with VB for all the money in the world. I neither envy, nor look down on her. I wish the family all the best. Who amongst us leads a perfect life?

lemondrizzle Tue 11-Jul-17 19:17:43

I don't agree that the Beckhams had to "work" to achieve what they got. Not in the literal sense of work anyway. Unless you call putting your name to a brand to earn millions "work". They both like to keep busy and why wouldn't they, most of us do, the only difference is they get fortunes for much less effort than most of us do.

Rigby46 Tue 11-Jul-17 17:19:57

Hahahaha - earning a living? I doubt she could even spell that phrase.

Morgana Tue 11-Jul-17 17:17:46

Eugenie should have been out earning a living. ......

BlueBelle Tue 11-Jul-17 16:49:22

I wonder how much of a close loving family they were when he was perusing his xtra marital affairs maggiemaybe ?
I hate to see small children over indulged and even more when media ( usually with the parents permission ) big it up I think the 'celebrities' who keep their children out of the lime light are the ones to be admired
Throughout her childhood Dawn French and Lenny Henry never talked about their adopted daughter and many other famous folk don't push their kids to the fore must be much more beneficial for the children

Imperfect27 Tue 11-Jul-17 14:21:24

I had four children whose childhood spanned the era when parties changed from a few parlour games, some cake and a balloon to take home (if you were really lucky) to themed experiences and one-up-manship party bags (pet hate). We compromised and still gave a slice of cake and a modest 'something' in later days and we kept numbers sensible. We did graduate to swimming and bowling - and even a home-styled 'olympics' 8-yar old garden party in the summer of 1996, when memorably the invited children initially looked quite bemused / offended at the idea of joining in home-spun races, obstacle course etc. They did manage to enjoy themselves once they had got over the shock of being expected to take part!!!
Point being - commercially the expectations and expenses bar has been rising and rising and rising for decades. Harper's extravaganza is the nub end of all of that I guess and will have tipped it all a little bit further over the top.
(Moany old git-rant finished now smile )

paddyann Tue 11-Jul-17 13:56:10

I have a grandaughter the same age as young miss Beckham ,she was happy with a tea party for her friends and a home made cake ....where are we going wrong? Should we have got celebrities and hired a castle ? Its all patently ridiculous ,however rich you are its a childs birthday what are they going to have to do to top that next year or when she's in her teens .Of curse this will fuel the expensive parties we see others have because if Beckham can make such a fuss about his " princess" so should we.Grandaughter wasinvited to a my little pony party last year...dressing up and grooming REAL ponies and having rides around the garden .Apparently cost hundreds of pounds ,wonder what THAT mum will come up with now

annodomini Tue 11-Jul-17 13:46:21

It's the first I've heard about this party. Am I reading the wrong papers/magazines?

Ana Tue 11-Jul-17 13:13:49

Haven't the Beckhams trademarked Harper's name so it can be used in future to market a range of clothing, toys etc? That's pretty tacky to my mind...and the poor child!

Maggiemaybe Tue 11-Jul-17 13:06:31

Oh, TerriBull, you're not alone, I hate the whole "Princess" thing too! And the segregating of toys that seems more common now. I've just been looking at Magformers (Intelligent Magnetic Construction for Brain Development, apparently), wondering whether to take out a mortgage to buy some for the DGS, and I was cross to see that some packs are marketed specifically at girls, "in the soft pastel colours that girls love so much", for making "a cute flower or a magic crystal". FGS!

Sorry for the off-topic rant!

silverlining48 Tue 11-Jul-17 12:45:47

With you jalima i have no idea what this is all about.

TerriBull Tue 11-Jul-17 12:27:46

I think they have allowed their children to be exposed to the media far too much, not the kids fault of course. Browsing the books in Sainsburys today, I see they are stocking the eldest son's "photographic" coffee table offering. How many 17/18 year olds, still studying that subject at A level get handed a commission. Harper is a perfectly sweet little 6 year old, no criticsm of her, but I don't think the "birthday party" at Buck House was a good idea. Like so many today, they refer to their daughter as a princess, am I alone in hating little girls being called that. My own son does it, I find it nauseating so over used and tacky hmm

It would be nice for their children to grow up normally without being part and parcel of the "Brand Beckham" they have more exposure than Prince George and Princess Charlotte.

trisher Tue 11-Jul-17 11:14:24

I can't stand any of them and actually I didn't know anything about this. Now I know, do I care? Frankly I think it's boring. If fox hunting is the unspeakable in pursuit of the uneatable this is the unspeakable entertaining the uninteresting.

Imperfect27 Tue 11-Jul-17 10:36:16

Maggiemaybe I agree with you.

I haven't actually read the DT coverage - only heard/read some reactions.

I like the Beckhams too - being in the public eye can be very costly and the depths of unkindness that people freely express amaze and disgust me. It is unjustifiable and unwarranted. However, I just cannot help but think that they - and anyone who also seeks to gain from media coverage - leave themselves vulnerable to it at times. When there are children involved the choices they make could mean storing up pain and resentment within the family for the future. I don't wish that on them, but /I fear it may happen.

Iam64 Tue 11-Jul-17 10:23:53

???? Maggie ?

Maggiemaybe Tue 11-Jul-17 09:40:58

Royals, not royalist. Ruddy predictive text.