My daughter and SIL recently relocated from AZ to CA. Originally, she, my then two mo. old gd, and myself were living together in AZ while my SIL awaited his discharge from the Army and being stationed in CO. During this time I provided child care. And, if I’m being honest (I suppose being anything but would completely defeat my purpose here), excessive child care, during business hours as well as an abundant of others for personal activities. Although I knew very well that I was being taken advantage of and was actually hindering my daughter by not holding her accountable as the primary caretaker, I thoroughly enjoyed each and every moment spent with my gd. Over the period of the next year we (my gd and I) built a bond so strong and apparent to all.
When my SIL arrived home, he, my daughter, and gd, moved just 20 miles from me. However, not only was I still providing child care during business hours, but more often than not, evenings and overnight as well, in order to save time and expenses of travel to and from.
Needless to say, I was completely beside myself when my daughter told me that they would be relocating to CA in just over “one week”!
I have always required justational time after my daughter has relocated on the few occasions which she has in the past, BUT.... Suddenly now I am left without any of their presence and this seemingly endless hole at my core.
I am sad and I miss them tremendously, however, I understand and support their choice and reasoning for relocating, but most of all, I am scared. I am scared that my gd will forget me and/or the previous time/bond that we shared and is so completely priceless to me. Because she is so young, will she remember or is it only the upcoming long distant relationship which hopefully will be built that will fill her memories?
Silent treatment - son
Caught in the act - neighbours
How to say it - 'no'