Been 'virtually' on my own for years ...late husband HATED Christmas and last year, even though I knew it would be our last because of his illness, he never even spoke to me on Christmas day ….never ate his dinner (liquidised as he had swallowing problems) and went to bed at 6/00pm I watched TV ...never bothered me ! This year I was, yes, I was, looking forward to taking a Christmas break abroad and had almost booked it when some friends insisted I spend the day with them ...I did say No, it is a family day, but they have been so kind to me during the past two years and so I have found it difficult …I made all kinds of excuses but none were accepted ...so I have to go ! I KNOW how kind it is of them, so I shall go, and appreciate it ….unfortunately they will NOT allow me to pay for anything so I am going to have to come up with some thing to thank them ! I have booked a holiday for new year ……..so it is only ONE day ...I picked up a leaflet today in the Salvation Army charity shop asking for volunteers for Christmas ...something I would have been keen to do. Other charities also need volunteers to help serve lunch ….those for elderly people who don't want to be alone on Christmas day, perhaps a local church ….enjoy the day, whatever you do …..